Don’t Entertain the Negative

Brian Brewington
Jul 11 · 3 min read
Photo Credit: Missy Meyer on Unsplash

Nothing sucks the joy out of the room like a Negative Ned or Nancy (who said I wasn’t progressive?).

You feel it when they enter the room, with that oh so sour look upon their face. They are there, exclusively to make sure everyone is as miserable as they are.

Point out the positive to these people and they’ll piss all over it in public and then have the audacity to complain about the smell.

You can’t fix these folks. You won’t change them. Call it hard wiring, how they were raised — or just a good old fashioned shitty personality. It’s who they are and how they operate. You try to pull them up, only to have them knowingly and willingly pull you down.

I’ve noticed a trend among negative people — they seem to always be sick, ill or in pain. There is always something plaguing them not only mentally or emotionally but their attitudes and how they perceive the world around them, effect them physically as well. Cough around these people and they tell you it’s cancer.

I used to think people who always claim to be ill were half crazy and half full of it. I just assumed it was their go to crutch for not having to do the things they didn’t want to. A built in cop out they could point to at any given moment, for why they couldn’t.

Then I realized, these folks spend so much time commiserating and focusing on anything negative they can find, they more or less manifest all that ails them.

People such as these are carcinogen filled cancers to your life. They can’t help but rob you of your happiness. While everyone else is busy trying to make lemonade out of the lemons, negative folks can’t help but point out how sour it is. They hate lemonade and the little runts who sell it as well.

Whether you realize it or not, negativity is always a choice. You are a willing participant in the kind of life you live. The attitude you choose to carry into every scenario or situation, is exclusively up to you.

While circumstances are rarely ideal or up to us and us alone, how we decide to handle them and go about our business is.

There will always be something out of place or not quite right. We can do our best to improve conditions or carry on and cry about it. We are the determiners of the kinds of days we have.

Surrounding ourselves with negativity in any form, has a way of rubbing off on us. It stifles who we are and fills us with thoughts and feelings that aren’t even truly our own.

Thoughts are things, a form of energy that effects who we are, how we feel and how we see the world around us.

Whether we realize it or not, we are the deciders of what we choose to continually focus on or think about. While we may not be in complete control of every thought that pops into our heads — we have complete control over which we choose to believe and focus on. What we continually focus on is what we essentially end up becoming.

A negative input will never result in a positive output. What you put in is what you get out. It is precisely this input that ends up determining your outlook. And our outlook is ultimately responsible for the kinds of lives we end up living.

Life doesn’t have to be something you suffer through. Know, do and live better.


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Each of us are the narrators of our own unique stories, dramas and sagas. Journal of Journeys is a publication that takes pride in helping share those stories.

    Brian Brewington

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    Fighter.Writer.Survivor. Phila PA. Writer for:Thrive,The Startup,Hacker Noon, PSI❤U, The Ascent & Splice Today Founder of Journal of Journeys and BRB INC ©

    Journal of Journeys

    Each of us are the narrators of our own unique stories, dramas and sagas. Journal of Journeys is a publication that takes pride in helping share those stories.

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