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Is It Really Just In Your Head?
Learn what NOT to say.
Life is not the same for everyone; one experience will affect two people differently. For one, it will be easy to let go of a relationship because that person will have built the skills needed to manage heartbreaks, and for some, it will be a devastating experience.
Many experiences in our life shape us differently, and to the extent that they shape our entire personality and thinking on life, we remain stuck in our pattern of bad luck in past lives, and expectation of a good future.
The other day, a dear friend told me, “I am so unlucky in love.” She wasn’t able to cope with the feelings, that’s why she has not found someone she feels safe enough with. Even though she is successful in her life, in matters of love, her choices and experiences keep her feeling miserable.
I try to understand and listen to others, but the other day, I just told her, “You’re not unlucky, you’re not miserable, it is all in your head.” For sure, the comment was not intended to judge her as she keeps feeling unworthy of a loving life, but instead, she felt judged and offended.
She came to talk to me because she feels I won’t judge, and this comment was surely one that I didn’t expect from myself. I apologized for my mis-utterance. Later, I reflect upon myself, and I got to know that once I was exactly in…
