Have you ever rolled your eyes at a movement that tries to conflate sexual harassment with sexual assault? #MeToo
I know this will anger some people. I know, I know, but listen.
#MeToo would have been great as a movement for women (or men and women) who are victims of sexual assault.
But that’s not what it’s about. It’s for those who have experienced sexual harassment *or* sexual assault.
That’s like me saying “Post #MeToo if you’ve ever been harassed by a homeless person *or* assaulted by one!”
If you were a city dweller, you could post #MeToo simply because most city dwellers have been harassed by a homeless person.
Just like most women have experienced sexual harassment.
Is sexual harassment ok?
Can we do anything about it?
Sure. Shame them, call them out (don’t let bullies get away with it), and be happy that they outted themselves as assholes so you know who not to associate with. Hey, maybe they’ll even apologize!
I think some people have different understandings of what sexual harassment is, but here’s some of what Wikipedia has to say.
Although laws surrounding sexual harassment exist, they generally do not prohibit simple teasing, offhand comments, or minor isolated incidents — that is, they do not impose a “general civility code”. In the workplace, harassment may be considered illegal when it is so frequent or severe that it creates a hostile or offensive work environment or when it results in an adverse employment decision (such as the victim being fired or demoted, or the victim quitting the job). The legal and social understanding of sexual harassment, however, varies by culture.
Many people boasting #MeToo have *experienced* sexual harassment, and very few are *victims of* sexual assault.
Why does this matter? Because we’re forever conflating these terms, and we’re watching our culture slowly shift toward one where men are becoming more afraid to communicate with women in fear that something they say or do might be taken offense to and lending to their immediate resignation.
If a man winks at you at work, is that acceptable? Is that sexual harassment?
Before you say “no, never!” I want to say I very genuinely worry that one day I will wink at a feminist coworker or employee, as if to say “I got your back!” and they’ll mistake it for “you owe me a blowjob!” — because with the current trends in culture, and how many of my own friends respond to my generally libertarian approach to political and ideological topics, I trust that I will have very little room to defend myself.
I very genuinely worry that one day I will wink at a feminist coworker or employee, as if to say “I got your back!” and they’ll mistake it for “you owe me a blowjob!”
Even if I could defend myself, it wouldn’t be before my name is already tarred and feathered across the internet, and it would become a PR disaster to do anything other than resign.
And that’s fucking disgusting. That’s the world we’re heading into, and some would say we’re already there.
I should compile a list of every such (major) example (or continue scattering them throughout this article in link form!) But you really don’t have to look much further than the James Damore story. Some women were so offended that his article made a point that hinted at the fact that women are in general more sensitive than men (higher in neuroticism in general. It’s a fact, not a judgment) that they, shocker, couldn’t even go into work the next day!
But I digress. (Even if it is making my point about how easily offended and how out of touch with reality our culture is becoming.)
Here’s a tweet for the non feminists out there, especially the men:
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