About Love, About Valentine’s Day, About English
Hi! Tomorrow is Valentine’s Day. On the eve of this day, let’s talk about what this holiday is and what love is, and ,of course, learn new words on the topic of love. Let’s start!
Saint Valentine’s Day
We celebrate Valentine’s Day every February 14th.
The story of Valentine’s Day begins in the third century with an oppressive Roman emperor Claudius II and a humble Christian priest Valentine.
Claudius declared it unlawful for young men to marry. He seen the king wanted them to be solders in faraway lands. He thought that if the young men were married would worry about their families back home and so wouldn’t make very good warriors. Valentine disobeyed the king and secretly married many young couples.
When Claudius found out about it he sent Valentine to prison.
According to legend, during his imprisonment, Saint Valentine healed the daughter of his jailer, Julia. Before his execution The bishop passed her a note signed «From your Valentine» as a farewell.
This story has became into the defining tradition of Valentine’s Day.
On each February 14, Saint Valentine’s Day, messages of affection and devotion are exchanged around the world. An estimated one billion cards sent each year, making it the second largest card-sending holiday of the year behind Christmas.
Nowadays students send Valentines to secret lovers, and couples spend this day together, confessing their boundless love and devotion to each other.
And you? Did you make Valentines at school? Do you love this day? Do you think this day is popular in Russia?
February 14 is dedicated to lovers.
What do you think? Does love exist? What is it? There are many opinions on this.
Love — reality or fiction.
Love, according to psychology, has no clear definition. The most common interpretations of the term are: the state of elation, the desire to give joy, the need to feel loved. Often people believe in love and can not accurately describe this feeling, but compare it with something sublime, significant, something that you are afraid of losing, what you cherish and keep. Others reject the existence of love. According to some scientists, love is just a physiological reaction of the body. Other scholars believe that love is a collective illusion that includes a set of different cultural myths, social practices, and their subsequent interpretations. People who hold the second opinion think that love is just a term to denote certain relationships of people. But even if it is a term. in any case it exists. But what is love really? Let’s focus on two main theories. About the basic third theory, about neurons and chemical reactions, read on the Internet.
So, two theories, two opinions, backed up scientifically. Let’s analyze each one. I will not impose the opinion that only one of them is correct. Everyone has the right to his own opinion. I will only tell you about love and say what I think so that you can determine what love means to you.
The first theory, opinion.
Love is the use of each other by mutual consent and pleasure. In relationships, people use their partners.
To make it easier to understand, I suggest turning to a psychoanalyst, who has identified two opinions about love, which we are talking about.
- “The Art of Loving. The Study of The Nature of Love” by the German psychoanalyst and philosopher Erich Fromm is known to many people. He is interested in the social and spiritual essence of love. Fromm attempted to classify love interactions. I want to use this classification to find out what love is.
Love-the use, Fromm calls the love of possession. Its goal is to acquire a partner with high social value and value for the owner. Most of modern society holds this view. The modern perception of romantic love is closely related to the development of capitalism since it begins to focus on emotional work with the consumer. Love begins to be commodified (commodification of romance, the term pf Illuz), that is, to turn into a commodity. Research has identified the important link of love and entertainment and excitement, a special role is played by the development of a culture of dating — where participants literally “run away” from home in search of happiness and fall into the trap of the culture industry, offering an incredible amount of activities to fuel feelings of love: romantic cafes, cinemas, amusement parks, all kinds of advertising all that concerns love. After all, you will not go somewhere alone, you will not do something alone. This requires a second person. You find a person, with whom you are comfortable, with whom you have common hobbies and common perception. And you walk, do some things with this person, And you both feel good. You can say that you use each other to make you both feel good. This relationship is called love in opinion of some peole. Love-possession also includes contract marriages, as a way to extract benefits from the material state of the second person, his connections. According to Fromm, such love is doomed to failure. Love on the principle of possession is the “love of death”, in such relationship, the partner is given a “dead status”, and — as a result — the relationship develops to the partner as a thing that can be used for your own pleasure. People agree with it and take advantage of each other. Fromm and the world’s religions do not accept this kind of love.
My opinion: firstly, I hope that you understand what I wanted to say. And about my opinion. I think that the use of each other takes place in a relationship. In fact, we use each other in some things and actions. But can we assume that love is the use of each other by mutual consent and pleasure? Read my second opinion and you will understand me)
The second theory, opinion.
But not all people ere such users and materialists) Therefore, there is a second definition of love, both according to Fromm and according to people.
Love is a long and strong sense of attachment that implies sympathy for a person, a desire to be close and experience joint emotions, and to make happy other person. This is support, care, warmth, and so on. This is something sublime. This is an extension of you. Be safe and vulnerable at the same time. It’s like rebirth.
According to Fromm, this is love-being. Love on the principle of being (love as an act of creative interest, fruitful love) contributes to the development and creation of the life of both partners. Love according to the principle of being is “ love of life».
This is a well-formed feeling that appeared during the development of relationships. According to the work of American psychologist Robert Sternberg, true love is based on 3 components:
- intimacy
- passion
- obligations
I agree that love is a sublime feeling, bright, unselfish, touching, fragile, tender and childlike…an indescribable feeling that can ascend to Olympus and make it possible to feel the wings behind your back. But as you remember, I also agreed with the first definition of love.
So, I believe that love is a symbiosis of these two definitions with the predominance of the second. First, love is a feeling that makes you fly over the earth, makes you live, and only then the use each other. Yes, as if it were not bad and directly said, people use each other in all aspects, but this should not be the basis of love, but only its component.
I also conducted a survey on what love is for my friends and acquaintances, and here are the results of the study…
Conclusion.
Love is one of those words that everyone understands in their own way. But in any case, I think everyone will agree that it exists and always is something good!
And of course English) New words. The theme is love.
- constancy — верность
- mutual — обоюдный
- possession — обладание
- infidelity — измена
- hug — объятие
- satisfaction — удовлетворение
- pounding heart — сердце, выпрыгивающее из груди
- Casual relationship — Легкомысленные отношения
- Steady relationship — стабильные отношения
- to split up=break up
- a blind date — свидания в слепую
- WLTM — would like to meet (хотелось бы встретиться)
GSOH — good sense of humour (Хорошее чувство юмора)
LTR — long -term relationship (долгосрочные отношения)
Good luck and love!
