Does Criticism Really Hurt Us?
Criticize this article with constructive criticism!
Criticism is the expression of disapproval of someone or something based on perceived faults or mistakes. There are two types of criticism, namely constructive and destructive. Constructive type, usually more specific, detailed, clear, helpful, offering suggestions, hints, and solutions for improvement. Destructive is unspecified, vague, the main purpose of which is to injure or attack someone.
Then, why do we feel hurt when we are destructive criticized?, Is that normal? Yes, it is. Because, basically, humans have their natural nature, namely the id, ego, and super-ego. Id is the part of the mind in which innate instinctive impulses and primary processes are manifest (instinct feeling), ego is contact from within ourselves to the outside world using a perception, and super-ego is the view of what is considered wrong. And that feeling always spins around us. And sometimes, it makes us have advantages as well as disadvantages. With these three feelings, we can protect ourselves from opinions, assumptions, and feelings that are harmful to us. For example, we can fight someone’s argument. However, a harsh superego can lead people to be hurt because of a word or sentence. If inadvertently, or unconsciously, the word or sentence is directed toward us or our side, what or who will be hurt?, we will be hurt.
The root of this is not that if we think positively will produce something we want, but, how do we identify and determine the world, and from your visual perception, you will think or act accordingly. And one of the most difficult things about criticizing people is criticizing them without hurting them. Hence, if we want to criticize people, try to identify their personality type.
There are several ways that we can do to minimize criticism that hurts us is to find out our personality type with the MBTI test, self-introspection, and try reading books or watching mystery films. Because by watching or reading mystery books, we can understand situations directly in life to unlock more of our vantage points and opinions, because studying criticism at school will be different from real events, we often find in real life, that if we have an argument or opinion, we have to think twice because of certain dilemmas or situations. By the way, about the MBTI test, my test results show that I’m an INFJ. Based on 16personalities.com, An Advocate (INFJ) is someone with the Introverted, Intuitive, Feeling, and Judging personality traits. They tend to approach life with deep thoughtfulness and imagination. Their inner vision, personal values, and a quiet, principled version of humanism guide them in all things.
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