Deadly Mistakes You Should Avoid To Build Your Confidence #4

Throughout my high school days people made remarks like — you’re ugly, you’re worthless, you’re dumb, and everything in between. At the time I probably believed it. My level of confidence was proof of that.

And even a few years ago I was told — “You don’t have the best GCSE’S, or good college grades, so you won’t amount to much”. That was back in a warehouse job I was eventually made redundant in.

The difference between a few years ago and my high school days is — I no longer believe the negative BS naysayers have to say. Because when it’s in a negative context, it always says more about them than it does about me.

Knowing that keeps my confidence in tact.

And that leads to the point behind this post. And how it relates to avoiding mistakes that hurt your self confidence.


Deadly Self Confidence Mistake #4 — Believing everything you’re told.

“When people undermine your dreams, predict your doom, or criticize you, remember, they’re telling you their story, not yours.” — Cynthia Occelli

Believing everything you’re told is dangerous. And believing everything those closest to you tells you is even more dangerous. Especially when it’s coming from a naysayer, or is negative in context.

I’ve seen enough bullying, experienced enough bullying, and been around enough negativity to know this is true. The moment my self confidence began to rise was when I filtered out the noise, and brushed all the criticism to the side.

People only say things to encourage you to believe it. Or because they themselves believe it to be true.

So always question everything, and look a little deeper behind the meaning of what someone tells you. Because I guarantee you there’s a bunch of other layers underneath their message. And some of those layers may surprise you.

If you can do that, you’ll have no problem growing and building your self confidence in the slightest.

This mistake alone can make or break your confidence in the long run. Especially now with the internet, and if you plan to build awareness through the internet.


To summarize this post:

  1. Question everything.
  2. What others say about you says more about themselves.
  3. Pay attention to the meaning behind the message.
  4. Practice and learn to brush off any negative criticisms.

Do that, and your confidence will thank you for it. I truly believe that.


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