Understanding Sex Therapy

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Kiki For The Future™
4 min readJul 20


What is Sex Therapy?

Sex therapy is a form of talk therapy intended to assist individuals and partners who are having trouble finding sexual fulfillment.

Sexual dysfunction can be brought on by physical, psychological, and emotional issues. A sex therapist’s objective is to assist individuals or partners in resolving these problems and achieving a more satisfying sex life.

Some types of sexual dysfunction include:

  • Erection problems
  • Loss of libido (Please note here, asexuality is not the same as sexual dysfunction. There is a spectrum of sexual and romantic attraction, and asexuals are not broken.)
  • Early ejaculation
  • Low self-esteem
  • Painful sex
  • Inability to have an orgasm
  • Intrusive thoughts during sex

These dysfunctions can substantially inhibit a person’s capacity to have a healthy and meaningful sexual life, resulting in a lack of interest in sex, poor confidence, sexual performance anxiety, painful intercourse, and an inability to become aroused or attain orgasm.

Physical or psychological factors may contribute to sexual dysfunction. It sometimes relates to a history of abuse.

How Does Sex Therapy Work?

Sex therapy entails talking through concerns, just like any other form of therapy. The client and sex therapist typically talk about any events, feelings, and worries that might be causing the client’s difficulties and unhappiness with their sex life.

In order to create a more fulfilling sexual life, they will also work on coping methods. Sex therapists may often assign “homework” to their patients. This may differ based on the person or people and may involve tasks intended to further sexual education and enhance relationship communication.

Additionally, sexual exploration and sensate focus assignments may be given by sex therapists. The therapist could suggest the patient see another specialist, such as a pelvic floor physical therapist, if they think a physical issue is the cause of the client’s sexual difficulties. To address the physical condition while assisting the client in achieving their sex life goals, the doctor and therapist may collaborate.

Let’s get into some details about when you should actually consider visiting a sex therapist:

  1. Premature Ejaculation or Erectile Dysfunction:

Premature ejaculation (PE) occurs when a person with a penis ejaculates too fast during sexual intercourse, whereas erectile dysfunction (ED) is the inability to obtain or maintain an erection during sexual intercourse. Frustration, worry, and a decline in sexual desire might result from these problems. In these situations, sex therapy can assist in determining the root problems and formulating plans to enhance sexual function.

2. Painful Sex:

Dyspareunia, or painful sex, is a frequent issue that impacts people of all genders. Many things, such as illnesses, hormone changes, or psychological problems, might contribute to it. Sex therapy can assist individuals and partners in addressing these issues and working towards an easeful sex life.

3. Loss of Sexual Desire:

Lack of libido or sexual desire can be brought on by a number of things, including hormonal changes, interpersonal conflict, stress, or underlying medical disorders. Sex therapy may assist people in figuring out what is really causing their lack of desire and developing plans to address it. These techniques could entail enhancing closeness and communication, examining fantasies and wants, and attending to underlying psychological or physiological problems.

4. Problems With Orgasm:

Orgasm problems are a common issue. They can be brought on by psychological or physical reasons, such as stress, worry, or the adverse effects of medication. The exploration of one’s sexual preferences and wants, the detection of any underlying psychological or physical problems, and the development of methods to enhance sexual function are all possible with the aid of sex therapy.

5. Sexual Trauma:

Sexual functioning and relationships can be significantly impacted by sexual trauma. It may cause stress, dread, and avoidance of sexual activity. Sex therapy can assist people in addressing these problems in a secure and encouraging setting as they try to recover and reclaim control over their bodies.

The Bottom Line

A healthy sex life can significantly impact your overall health. A good sex life’s physical and mental aspects can provide several advantages, such as lowered blood pressure, improved heart health, increased intimacy, and stress reduction.

Sex, however, may be a major cause of concern and anxiety for some people. Sexual dysfunction may have a detrimental impact on relationships and confidence, which may bleed into other areas of life.

Sex therapy is a comprehensive method for addressing and resolving underlying issues.


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