Qualities of a Healthy Long-Term Femdom Relationship
How To Make That Kinky Dynamic Last
There is nothing like the rush of a new submissive. If both parties can agree on where their kinks overlap and the directions they want to take a scene, the results can be truly magical. Once the initial screening, scenes, negotiations, and results have been accomplished- the exciting “newness” can take over. The newness of fooling around so often you don’t have time to recoil your rope between sessions, wash the sheets, or call back anyone in your life because you’re in the can’t keep your hands off each other phase.
There are real power imbalances outside of kink that can impact how a femdom feels safe with a male submissive. First and foremost, is this a “safe” man? A man identifying as a sexual submissive does not equate to being safe. Safer than a male dom or a toxic man- maybe. But by default always safe? No. There are many situations where the man playing might be physically bigger or stronger than the femdom. This is an outside risk that must first be assessed before any play can commence.
Outside of this initial assessment for safety, follows a delicate assessment of “goodness” of fit for a scene. A sexual submissive could have all kinds of kinks that I absolutely have no interest in engaging in. There are additional things I am looking for in play partners…
