5 Things I Did To Get My Ex-Girlfriend Back

What Do You Do If You Broke Up With Your Girlfriend?

You Want Your Ex-Girlfriend Back
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A breakup can be devastating, regardless of how the breakup goes. It can cause emotional hurt, feelings of loneliness, and stress in all areas of your life.

If you want to get her back, there are certain things you should avoid doing and actions you can take that will ultimately improve your chances of getting her back after the breakup.

After a breakup, it may seem like there’s no way to win your ex-girlfriend back, but it doesn’t have to be that way!

Here are 5 tips that will help you win your ex-girlfriend back so you can start off on the right foot again, or get her back if you’ve already broken up(I used this method).


It doesn’t have to be overly long or eloquent, just straight to the point. When you first broke up with her, it was because you thought it was for her good.

Now that you’ve had time to think about it, it may be that there were things you might have done differently or better to avoid a breakup.

Saying I’m sorry is usually all it takes for a girl to hear you out and decide if she still wants to get back with you.

You might be able to earn friendship after a breakup, but only time and effort can repair a broken relationship. But if you have any real hope of regaining your ex’s affections, you must apologize for what went wrong in the relationship.

Make sure you do apologize sincerely, though: saying I’m sorry for what I did isn’t an apology; an apology is about explaining why something happened and how sorry you are for hurting another person in any way.

If anything, being able to apologize honestly is all but essential if you ever want to be trusted again by a girlfriend.

Most of my experiences with apologizing were good and have yielded positive results in keeping my relationships strong. However, there was one time when I had upset my girlfriend so much that she broke up with me.

Be honest

Honesty is crucial. You can’t be honest with someone on one level and then lie on another.

Honesty is essential when you’re trying to get your ex-girlfriend back. Even if it seems like she’s over you and moved on, there are ways to rekindle that old flame without coming off as desperate or egotistical.

And be honest about how much you hurt when things ended between you two; don’t try to play down how heartbroken you were by saying something like It wasn’t that bad, I was just disappointed at first.

It does not show her how serious you are about winning her back; instead, concentrate on building a future together.

I was initially quite upset when we broke up, but my ex told me she wanted to continue the friendship going.

I could tell it meant a lot to her, so I decided it would be best if we tried to go back to being friends, and as time went on, we became close again, although more distant than before our break up.

Show you’ve changed

Your best chance at getting your ex back is to show her you’ve changed.

It’s never too late to show that you’ve changed. After my breakup, I became more mature and stopped playing games with women’s hearts.

My life experiences may have helped my development as a better person, and I now use them to help others cope with relationship issues.

If you have shown that you have changed over time, showing that you’ve changed even more can also be effective in getting her to accept your apologies.

Breakups aren’t always mutual, and sometimes they happen because of a mistake you made.

Even if you realize what you did wrong and feel horrible about it, it’s possible that she might not be ready to take you back.

Don’t give up hope! She could change her mind at any time and come to realize that you were who she wanted all along.

Give her space

After a breakup, it’s tempting to do everything you can to get her attention.

You might text her 20 times a day or follow her around in hopes of running into her. But that never works and only leads to you looking desperate and needy.

Often we forget that, after a breakup, she needs time to move on with her life. Just because you have seen each other in person or online for a long time doesn’t mean you have any sort of emotional rights over her.

I learned firsthand how hard it is not to contact your ex when things fall apart, so give yourself space and wait until she reaches out to talk.

Remember, you’re giving yourself space, not cutting off all communication forever.

The more time you spend with her right after a breakup, the less likely she’ll want to stay broken up with you later on down the road.

You can still be a friend, but don’t force anything on her if she isn’t willing to give you another chance. Let time do its work and show you what she is thinking.

Remind her why she liked you in the first place

When I was in a relationship, I never took the time to remind my partner why she liked me in the first place.

I guess it didn’t seem necessary because things were going so great, and we were getting along so well.

Looking back, though, having her think about all the good qualities you have as a partner or boyfriend is one of the best ways to win her over again.

Whenever you get a chance to talk with her alone or even on social media, be sure to let her know how happy she makes you, what qualities she has that are attractive and special about her personality.

Doing something small like including her favorite candy bar in your care package will make sure that not only does she remember you but also remembers just how great life was when you were together!


I hope you enjoyed my blog post on how to get your ex-girlfriend back. It’s never an easy thing to deal with a breakup. The feelings of sadness, loneliness, and failure can be overwhelming.

The good news is that there are certain things you should avoid doing that will ultimately improve your chances of getting her back after the breakup.

It’s also important to know what you can do; that will help your chances of getting her back after the breakup.

I would love to hear from you. Thank you for reading. If you have any further questions, please don’t hesitate to comment below.

Focus on what you have to offer her, and don’t give up.



𝘈𝘶𝘵𝘩𝘦𝘯𝘵𝘪𝘤𝘪𝘵𝘺, 𝘷𝘶𝘭𝘯𝘦𝘳𝘢𝘣𝘪𝘭𝘪𝘵𝘺, 𝘢𝘸𝘢𝘳𝘦𝘯𝘦𝘴𝘴 & 𝘨𝘳𝘰𝘸𝘵𝘩 𝘵𝘩𝘳𝘰𝘶𝘨𝘩 𝘴𝘵𝘰𝘳𝘺𝘵𝘦𝘭𝘭𝘪𝘯𝘨, 𝘴𝘩𝘢𝘳𝘪𝘯𝘨 𝘰𝘧 𝘱𝘦𝘳𝘴𝘰𝘯𝘢𝘭 𝘦𝘹𝘱𝘦𝘳𝘪𝘦𝘯𝘤𝘦𝘴 𝘢𝘯𝘥 𝘬𝘯𝘰𝘸𝘭𝘦𝘥𝘨𝘦 𝘰𝘯 𝘴𝘱𝘪𝘳𝘪𝘵𝘶𝘢𝘭 𝘮𝘢𝘵𝘵𝘦𝘳𝘴.

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