An Open Letter To Five-year-old Me Who Had Her Daddy

Bask in your luxury

Blessing Oluchukwu Awamba
Know Thyself, Heal Thyself

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A picture of a beautiful black woman twirling a younger version of herself as she helps her up the stairs.
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Before the age of 17, you would have forgotten how his voice sounds
bask in the luxury of it
Whether high-pitched and scolding or low-toned and complimentary

The many hairs on his hands may seem mysterious now but
Don’t keep looking at them in wonder
hold unto them instead
put your tiny palm into his every chance you get
bask in the luxury of it

You will lose N150 on your way to school, and he will beat you
He will say you play too much; that was why it fell off your schoolbag
Cry
But, remember to hug him afterward
This will be the lone memory you will have of him in twenty years
bask in the luxury of it

He will drop you at the Sunday school class
You are always so obedient and quiet until after church service
You don’t need to be.
Refuse. Be a crybaby.
Insist he carries you in his arms through the church service
you have only so much to attend with him
bask in the luxury of it

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Blessing Oluchukwu Awamba
Know Thyself, Heal Thyself

I write about life; as I experience it, as I know it; as it could be better.