FAMILY

Did You Know That Being an Orphan or Abandoned by Your Biological Parents Is a Blessing in Disguise?

Some adoptive parents might save you from a traumatic childhood!

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It’s not that important to give birth to kids. Many adults are driven by selfishness and their numerous insecurities in their decision, instead of a genuine will to raise balanced future adults who would give back to the world:

• They want to feel the Oxytocin effect.
• They can’t bear with their environment’s pressure.
• They want to look normal to the world while hiding their true colors. It goes beyond this need when it comes to some mental disorders. For narcissists, their children are a source of narcissistic supply that they need to survive. Kids are merely their extension with no separate identity. They’re trophies.

It seems to me that what truly matters is to honor the privilege of raising those small and fragile creatures who crave being unconditionally loved. Their self-talk should look like this:

• My feelings get seen, heard, and understood, or at least made an attempt to.
• I get attuned to, so relating is safe.
• I can trust my caregiver.