I’m No One’s Favorite Friend
And I’ve accepted this
In movies, women seem to have unbreakable bonds, always there for each other, no matter what. There’s unconditional support, understanding, and trust. Some women experience this in real life, which is inspiring and heartwarming.
I have not experienced the kind of sisterhood portrayed on screen or witnessed around me. In fact, throughout my life I have had several ‘best friends’ who have ghosted me. In larger groups of girls, I often felt invisible and was never the first ‘pick’. Other girls didn’t naturally gravitate towards me, and when they did, the connection always ended abruptly.
I grew up not knowing what it felt like to have a strong connection with another girl, and it shattered my confidence. I’ve often thought about it and wondered if there was something wrong with me, with the way I was wired. I felt jealous of other girls who had friend groups.
As an adult, I found it even harder to make female friends. Things have changed, though, as I’ve stopped chasing other people’s friendships. I let relationships grow organically when they’re meant to. I enjoy interacting with other women, but I don’t try to force anything.
Friendships are complex and multifaceted. Not everyone will have a single “favorite” friend, and that’s okay. I remain open to meeting new people, but I’m also focused on my personal growth and development.
Healing. Surrendering. Accepting. Being kind and compassionate.
