The Concept of Closure is a Misnomer
The Heart Knows a Greater Truth.
It drives me crazy when I hear people say that what I or you need is closure. And we hear it all the time. In extreme cases, someone goes to court and hears a guilty verdict thinking this will bring them “closure.” Then there is the unexpected death, or the lover who was dropped, only to discover an ongoing affair for years prior. You get the picture.
The truth is that we are taught by society and culture that what we need, is closure. And so when we don’t experience closure, another layer of guilt and shame is added on top of the already painful loss.
We are made to feel there must be something wrong with us. Well-meaning family and friends counsel, why don’t we just let it go already? Get over it.
Closure confuses the hell out of people, insinuating that somehow they need to get over their loss, whatever it is, and move on. Would it be so easy if were just an issue of the mind?
But it’s not. The heart feels broken, betrayed, or devastated by whatever the situation or circumstances were. That’s the reality.
I’m gonna give it to you straight. IT’S NEVER OVER.
We don’t all of a sudden get amnesia and the situation or loss is banished from our hearts and minds forever. So how…
