They Left, or You Walked Away — It Hurts the Same
Stop feeling guilty and focus on the lesson. Eventually, people leaving can be the best thing ever!
“There comes a time in your life, when you walk away from all the drama and people who create it. You surround yourself with people who make you laugh. Forget the bad and focus on the good. Love the people who treat you right, pray for the ones who do not. Life is too short to be anything but happy. Falling down is a part of life, getting back up is living.”
― José N. Harris
As I write these words, I listen to the song ‘Youth’ by Shawn Mendes ft Khalid. It starts with how one feels when there is devastation all around, and yet we have good in our hearts.
Every day we wake up and get on with our day as usual. We face numerous situations that cause anger, hurt, pain, loss, love, and other infinite emotions in the day. Day turns to night, and we drift away to dreamland.
The sun rises and what occurred the previous day seems trivial, but the lessons we learned from every situation stay. And despite the pain, hurt and loss, we still find it in our hearts to remain good.
Where does this pool of being good come from? Mind you; it’s hard being a good person. Hurting is easy. Kindness is hard and thus rare.
Sometimes Even with the Right Intentions We End Up Hurting People
Growing up, values were an integral part of my life, such as respecting elders, staying humble, enjoying simplicity, and many more. That’s where we realise that being good is hard, but the results are long-lasting. And what’s strange is that even though your intentions were genuine, people leave, leaving you surprised and devastated.
You wonder how anyone could have it in their hearts to hurt you when you only wanted the best for this person.
It hurts, I know, but the person walking away is the best thing that can ever happen to you. Just wait, and the reasons for why things happened will appear.
I thought people leaving were the result of something I said and behaved. But what we forget is that any relationship is made up of two people. It’s about time we understand that the fault wasn’t ours alone. What’s important is that we realise what we did wrong, learn from our mistakes and move on to live new experiences. The person leaving wasn’t your fault alone.
When It’s Time for You to Leave
Then there are times when you are the one who left. Some people draw good from you but fail to reciprocate. There is a limit to how much pain your heart can take. And once you reach your threshold point, you realise that staying with a rotten fruit will start eating into your good too. It’s like how we imbibe certain qualities from the people we associate with. If we hang out with toxic people, the toxicity injects itself into our systems too. The cleanse will only happen if we walk away and refuse to associate with them.
We are walking away or people leaving; both leave us feeling awful. We keep thinking, why me and why did we have to endure this when we gave our everything.
But we all know that we grow when we fail or when we live through heart-wrenching experiences. Until and unless we surrender to any situation and accept how we feel, the lessons we are supposed to learn never enter our rational minds.
I still remember that while growing up, my mom never put up with my food tantrums. If I made a fuss about what food was served, she would let me stay hungry until I gave in and ate whatever she did.
It used to make my blood boil back then, but now I eat anything served and express gratitude. But with some of my friends, the case is not the same. They are amazed that I don’t have difficulty eating anything they offer and respect my mom’s upbringing.
That’s the thing with pain too. When it happens, we hate it. We boil in anger. But over time, we realise how it’s making us better and how life gets easier from now on.
Because the worst is over, we survived to live the tale. Now we know those who will stay with us in the long run and who are just for a season or to teach us a lesson.
Whatever the outcome, now we know that it’s for the best, and if we are in pain, it just means that it’s only going to get better from now on.
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