We want what we don’t have

How to fix your terrible haircut

Photo by Engin Akyurt

How many of you are unhappy with your current hairstyle? You want it to be curlier, looser, lighter, fresh. It just could be better.

Unfortunately, I’m not advertising, nor do I have a hair-based sponsor like Manscaped. However, I do have similar problems. I’d like my hair to be curlier, looser, lighter. I don’t like the giant bush on my head.

I want it to look better. So, when I scheduled a haircut recently, I wanted to at least try and make an effort to have a decent hairstyle. Hoping to find style inspiration, I spent my Wednesday afternoon scrolling through celebrity haircuts. While looking at hairstyles, I realized that my hair was too thick for most of them. I had been trying to put (natural) products for the past couple of weeks hoping that the problem was that I didn’t take care of my hair. But that hadn’t done anything, and I was realizing that it was just genetics. I had thick hair and I had to deal with it. I looked for solace and ended up finding it in a fade-style haircut only to then see that my curls were another problem. They were stopping the fade from being “clean.” Sighing in disappointment I realized I’d have to get the usual haircut.

Heading the next day to the barber, I opened the door with complacency but smiled at my barber and told her to make a few minor adjustments from the last time.

We talked about the usual; I asked her how she was doing, she said good and vice versa. As she had a son who was a year younger than me, we typically exchanged thoughts on school and extracurriculars. I told her that my schedule had freed up because the competitive season for my clubs had ended. She talked about her son and how he was spending time. From there, it moved on to hairstyles.

“Can you trim this bit here” I motioned? “Yea, right there.’

“Got it. Yea you remember my son, right? He wants to style his hair as well.” She had always been amused by my meticulous attention to hair detail.

“Yea, he’s trying to get his hair to be all big and curly, so I gave him a perm last week.”

“He wants curly hair? Why?”

“He says it looks stylish.”

“Stylish?” I was surprised. Very few people could pull off curls and even then, not everyone agreed that it looks good.

“Yea. He wants curls like on the top of his head. Like yours.”

“Mine?” Now I was really surprised. Why would he ever want curls like mine? “My curls are all so thick. I was hoping to get a fade right here, but I realized my curls were a problem. And my hair, it’s too thick.”

“I don’t know, but he wants curls. But, your hair, it’s fine right?”

“No, it’s too thick. I can’t style it or keep it short.”

“Hmm, we all want what we don’t have. He just wants curls like yours.”

I froze. Did he really want my curls? ‘We all want we don’t have.’ I mean, I guess. But it didn’t make any sense. Why would her son want my hair style?

I looked in the mirror again, examining the curls. It didn’t look so bad now. It still looked a bit messy, thick, curly. But that was always my hair. I looked at it again. Did I want a straight hairstyle? Maybe, I wasn’t sure. I sort of liked the curls. Sure, they were annoying at times, but maybe they looked good in the front. And the thickness, well at least there was substance. I could move it left and right. Maybe, my hair wasn’t that bad. I looked at it again. The curls, the thickness. I examined this giant bush again.

“Anything else?” she asked.

I paused, and then responded, “No, I think it’s fine. It’s good. I like it.”

I liked my haircut. My hair. It was me. And I wanted it.



𝘈𝘶𝘵𝘩𝘦𝘯𝘵𝘪𝘤𝘪𝘵𝘺, 𝘷𝘶𝘭𝘯𝘦𝘳𝘢𝘣𝘪𝘭𝘪𝘵𝘺, 𝘢𝘸𝘢𝘳𝘦𝘯𝘦𝘴𝘴 & 𝘨𝘳𝘰𝘸𝘵𝘩 𝘵𝘩𝘳𝘰𝘶𝘨𝘩 𝘴𝘵𝘰𝘳𝘺𝘵𝘦𝘭𝘭𝘪𝘯𝘨, 𝘴𝘩𝘢𝘳𝘪𝘯𝘨 𝘰𝘧 𝘱𝘦𝘳𝘴𝘰𝘯𝘢𝘭 𝘦𝘹𝘱𝘦𝘳𝘪𝘦𝘯𝘤𝘦𝘴 𝘢𝘯𝘥 𝘬𝘯𝘰𝘸𝘭𝘦𝘥𝘨𝘦 𝘰𝘯 𝘴𝘱𝘪𝘳𝘪𝘵𝘶𝘢𝘭 𝘮𝘢𝘵𝘵𝘦𝘳𝘴.

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Nathan M

Nathan M

Taking from my experience, I write about productivity, enjoying life a bit more, and being a slightly less annoying human.