When Is the Right Time to Let Go?
Seeing that golden point.
One of the hardest points in my life is when I have to decide whether I’m staying or moving on. It happens to all of us many times in a lifetime. I’ve been struggling with this one for a while. From the outside, everything may seem simple and obvious, but on the inside, when I’m not just logically putting things in the right places, but also feeling every single move, it’s not so simple. I am getting affected by every thought, every person, every little change. So, it’s hard. It really is. How do I know what decision is right when I don’t know the outcome? What is the right choice? When is the right time to make that choice?
I had this battle in my mind for quite a long time. I was living in the fog, not seeing what was holding and what was pushing me. I can’t stay. I can’t go back. I can’t turn right. I can’t move forward. What a hell!
Suddenly, this puzzle started to solve itself and fog started to take shape. And this realization hit me. I saw the point when I knew it was time to draw the line, separate the old from the new, let go and move on. It goes like this:
When I like the memory of it more than how it is in the present moment, it’s time to move on.
It means I’m at the point when that thing, that person, that place, that phase, that experience gave me everything it had in store for me. That’s it. The cup is empty, the film roll has no more shots, the story has no more words. I have a choice to sit with that empty cup and blame it for being empty or leave it and let it be filled with something new for someone new.
At times certain things just want to stay in the moment when they are at their best; when they are at the peak of expressing their essence to you. Certain moments and memories are too precious to be dragged around and squeezed till the last drop. Just try to notice when you start ruining it. Why?
In this life, we get to live through so many wonderful moments. They touch us, they change us, they give something to us. We carry all of them in who we are, in who we got to become. So let them be what they were meant to be. That love should stay THAT love. It doesn’t have to be THIS love. Do you know what I mean?
