Why Concerned Mothers and Sisters Send Me Their Sons and Brothers

I’ve been where they are, and they want what I have

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Jake’s mother sent me an email asking me to meet her son. I always say, “Yes.” Even though I am not a psychologist or counselor, when I am asked to help someone else with addiction, a career path, or finding one’s way through being stuck in life, I help them “shift into a higher gear of consciousness.”

The S.H.I.F.T. Process for Personal Development® includes five simple steps I walk people through. I initially created it to help myself.

1. S stands for self-awareness.
2. H stands for a higher understanding of themselves.
3. I stands for introspection and search inside oneself.
4. F stands for focused intention, which concerns the goal or desired outcome.
5. T stands for the typical outcome, which is personal transformation.

I haven’t been charging people I meet to help them shift gears. I do it as a byproduct of getting lots of help from others over the years.

Jake, in his late twenties, was lost in a cloud of cannabis smoke, self-despair, unemployed, and hanging around others seeking solace in video games, beer, and weed.