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Why Is Life So Hard?
It’s a matter of perspective
It’s to learn to love. That’s the bottom line, and I’m convinced of that.
I recently talked with a man about the tragedies in his life and the lessons he’s learned. Let’s call him Dave. Dave went through hell and back.
Along the way, he drank buckets of booze and did lots of drugs to take the edge off life. It’s easier to go through hell numbed by substances until it isn’t.
Dave landed in jail more than once. Then prison. Life kept getting harder and darker. He didn’t know why.
Then, one day, while sitting on his prison bed, Dave said to himself, “Gee. Maybe I’m the problem. Hmmm.”
Dave started reading books. He began taking classes he had ignored before, including anger management and meditation. He hung around men who steered clear of the gangs.
These were sober men, unlike the majority who had access to and used drugs. After they stopped using alcohol and other substances to soothe their trauma-ridden bodies and minds, they learned what emotional sobriety meant.
Over time and with practice, they no longer felt the cycles of fear, anger, rage, shame, guilt, remorse, and self-pity. They no longer sweat the small stuff. They were getting better together and helping many others get…
