Your Fear of the Unkown is what’s Preventing You from Becoming the Best Version of Yourself

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I’ve got the feeling that this article will be something totally different from what I’ve written before. Still not sure yet what it’s going to be about or where it will take us/me. It’s not bad to start like this, contrary to what others might think… I like not knowing what I am going to say. In this way, I can learn. Imagine going to the cinema, over and over, to see a movie that you’ve seen already a million times, or to see an act on stage that you already know what it’s about, how it’s going to unfold and conclude.

Quite pointless, isn’t it? Quite time consuming and mind-numbing. It’s good, it’s just what you need if what you want is to deaden your brain, or brag to all the people around you that you already know what’s coming up next… or spoil it for everyone… But, I think, what the wise man does, is put himself in a new, unfamiliar situation to see what he can learn; to see what he can experience; to see how he can see differently from the way he saw until that moment.

This is precisely what I am doing now. I mean, leave aside the fact that I indirectly called myself a wise man. I don’t think I am that wise anyways, neither am I trying to sell myself as such. What I am trying to do, however, is become ever wiser. I am always looking to improve myself, learn more, not merely intellectually, but experientially. I seek to embody my knowledge; to embody my wishes for the better; to embody the better me. And there is always a better me waiting just around the corner. Because that me is around the corner, this means that to find him, I usually have to change course.

Even as I think this, something in me feels like it wants to hide somewhere under a rock or tie itself to the nearest immovable object. Fear is always the character that sits between you and the better you. And fear is always and always personal. It knows your weakness, it knows just what buttons to push to make you stay away from the better you. But that doesn’t mean it has to win.

𝘈𝘶𝘵𝘩𝘦𝘯𝘵𝘪𝘤𝘪𝘵𝘺, 𝘷𝘶𝘭𝘯𝘦𝘳𝘢𝘣𝘪𝘭𝘪𝘵𝘺, 𝘢𝘸𝘢𝘳𝘦𝘯𝘦𝘴𝘴 & 𝘨𝘳𝘰𝘸𝘵𝘩 𝘵𝘩𝘳𝘰𝘶𝘨𝘩 𝘴𝘵𝘰𝘳𝘺𝘵𝘦𝘭𝘭𝘪𝘯𝘨, 𝘴𝘩𝘢𝘳𝘪𝘯𝘨 𝘰𝘧 𝘱𝘦𝘳𝘴𝘰𝘯𝘢𝘭 𝘦𝘹𝘱𝘦𝘳𝘪𝘦𝘯𝘤𝘦𝘴 𝘢𝘯𝘥 𝘬𝘯𝘰𝘸𝘭𝘦𝘥𝘨𝘦 𝘰𝘯 𝘴𝘱𝘪𝘳𝘪𝘵𝘶𝘢𝘭 𝘮𝘢𝘵𝘵𝘦𝘳𝘴.

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Natan Morar, PhD

Natan Morar, PhD

Author of “The Shift: An Introduction to Freedom” • Relentless questioner, happiness seeker, writer, programmer, rapper, jack of all trades • natanmorar.com

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