31 Questions to Help Christian Men Get Real About Jesus
Ask, and it will be given to you
Jesus asked a lot of questions. He wants us to do the same.
Ask and it will be given to you; seek and you will find; knock and the door will be opened to you. (Matthew 7:7, NIV)
But for Christian men, it’s easier to be superficial than real. When asked a highly personal question, especially in a group setting, you feel pressured to give the expected response instead of what you’re thinking.
To get candid, engaging answers, you need questions that knock on the door of a man’s heart. This article offers 31 questions to help Christian men get real.
The power of these questions is they are real. They arose from the stories of more than 100 guys I interviewed on a Zoom-based weekly men’s gathering sponsored by my church. We call it, you guessed it, “Get Real.”
To learn more about “Get Real” and how it started, read the article below.
Jesus knew how to interview. Bible scholars count more than 300 questions by Jesus recorded in the Bible. He undoubtedly asked many more.
Jesus seems genuinely curious, less the Answer Man and more the Question Man. His questions get to the heart like a sharp arrow shredding the center of a bullseye.
A few examples:
But who do you say I am?
(Matt 16:15, NIV)
Do you want to get well?
(John 5:6, NIV)
Why are you so afraid?
(Matthew 8:26, NIV)
Simon son of John, do you love me?
(John 21:16, NIV)
In “Get Real,” I interview a man for 20 minutes about how Jesus revealed himself in his life. A theme emerges from that story. Inspired by that theme, I ask an open-ended question.
Zoom then breaks us up into small groups for 20 minutes. The conversations have been extraordinary.
You don’t need to follow our format to use these questions. Try them over a meal with a friend, in your Bible study, in your personal “quiet time,” or in another appropriate venue.
31 Questions for Christian Men to Get Real
1. How can you be present to another man to see and hear him?
2. Where do you need wisdom, and are you willing to ask God for it?
3. How has suffering affected your outlook on life?
4. If you died today, where do you think you would go?
5. Do you seek humility? If not, why not? If yes, then how?
6. How important have the institutions of Christianity been to you?
7. What are you afraid of if you truly surrender to Jesus?
8. What’s the state of your spiritual heart today?
9. How do you feel adopted (or not adopted) by God?
10. What are you waiting on Jesus for?
11. To what extent are you willing to be offensive and uncomfortable for Jesus?
12. How would you like to remind people about God?
13. If you’re addicted to something, what are you doing about it?
14. How has Jesus revealed or not revealed grace to you?
15. If you ever had a “paradigm shift,” how did it happen?
16. Where in your life are you willing to move forward with Jesus based on “reasonable confidence” instead of “absolute certainty?”
17. Who planted seeds in your life? Who plants seeds now?
18. What pain mentioned by Jesus are you afraid of?
19. Do you want to be healed?
20. What do you do when you feel disillusioned?
21. How present was your earthly father, and how does that affect your relationship with God the Father?
22. What do you do with your shame and regret?
23. How has failure brought you closer to Jesus?
24. What do you do when you don’t know what to do?
25. Has grief brought you closer to God or pushed you farther away?
26. How would you like Jesus to show up in your life right now?
27. What would you like to give that you never got?
28. Where would you like to be more consistent in your life?
29. How lonely are you feeling today?
30. What do you need to surrender to God?
31. How do you experience the Real Presence of Jesus in your life?
We have more questions if you need them. Just let us know. We desire to help other Christian men get real by asking personal, provocative, and powerful questions, just as Jesus did.
“Get Real” is part of the men’s ministry of The Falls Church Anglican (TFCA), located in Falls Church, Virginia, just west of Washington, D.C. For more information on how you can participate, see our “Get Real” page.
