Are You Really Loving as You Should?

In this world, it is more and more a necessity to show love

Janis Cox
Janis Cox
Jun 14 · 4 min read
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In this world, we do NOT see the love we need to see to live well together. In our marriages and in our families we hear of dissensions. Why is that? What can help?

I think God’s Word can help us figure this out

Love — that’s all it is. All we need is love.

“Above all, love each other deeply, because love covers over a multitude of sins.”
(1 Peter 4:8, NIV)

In 1 Peter 1:8–9 I see where I learned more about love.

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Learning to love Jesus has helped me learn to love others.

My marriage changed for the better because of love.

We have been married for a number of years, but love pulled us through.


Yes…love has pulled us through. Through the troubling times, through the disagreements, through the trials and deaths. Through it all, love has pulled us through.

The Amplified for this passage says,

“Have fervent and unfailing love for one another.”

The NIV says,

“Love each other deeply.”

The MSG,

“Love each other as if your life depended on it.”

That’s a lot of love

Love does make up for practically anything.

Bear with one another.
Spend time together.
Trust one another.
Show your love in practical ways.

A background of frustration turned around in LOVE

“My dear brothers and sisters, take note of this: Everyone should be quick to listen, slow to speak and slow to become angry, because human anger does not produce the righteousness that God desires.” (James 1:19–20, NIV)

My short story

I slammed the door. The noise reverberated around the house, followed by silence. I ran to the bed, threw myself across it and pounded my fists on the mattress.

How dare he? Why wouldn’t he listen to me?

I cried out in a loud voice, “I hate you!” as tears trickled down my cheeks.

Anger is one of Satan’s landmines — one way to distract us from godly living

In James 4:1, James asks:

“What causes fights and quarrels among you?”

James continues:

“Don’t they (quarrels) come from your desires that battle within you? You want something but don’t get it.” (James 4:1, 2)

My anger stemmed from not getting my own way.

I had a deep desire to control. The difference in the new me is in how I relate to people.

Since finding the love of Jesus, my deep desire has been to learn how to be like Him. Still, there was no quick solution. It was and continues to be hard work.

My capacity for anger is still there

It is how I deal with that anger that matters. Every day holds challenges and the possibility of plans being interrupted and feelings hurt.

I pray each day for God to guide me, to help me learn to live in love and at peace with everyone.

“‘so love the Lord God with all your passion and prayer and intelligence and energy.’

And here is the second: ‘Love others as well as you love yourself.’ There is no other commandment that ranks with these.” (Mark 12:29–41, The Message)

Your priorities need to be the following so you can live in love

1. God
2. Spouse
3. Children
4. Everyone else

Are you showing that type of love today?

If not, why not?

May I pray for you? (Message me for private prayer.)

Lord, we don’t always love as You have commanded us to do. We don’t respect others. We think of ourselves. Help us to love like You do. Help us to really feel and see how to love. Help us to know compassion. Help us to be open to loving all people. In Jesus’ name. Amen.


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