Why Do My Prayers Go Unanswered?

What happens when we purposely choose to be disobedient.

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A while ago, I had a rather disturbing dream. In it, I was invited to participate in an illegal act. I knew that this was wrong, but my curiosity was peaked.

I knew that it was in direct violation of God’s law, but I wanted to try it. I had never had the opportunity before and I was intrigued.

In my dream, I knew it was wrong, but I chose to do it anyway, wagering that God would forgive me. I awoke from this dream feeling very guilty and rotten about my decision.

It reminded me of a client that I had when working as a personal trainer. He admitted that the week before he had ignored my advice and continued with his bad habits. But he reasoned that it was okay since he planned to keep his appointment with me this week, and he could start the program again.

This behaviour is not so uncommon.

As if my dream were a warning, I myself fell into this trap recently. I had arrived home after a long day of work. I had little energy or desire to start cooking the evening meal, but after a little thought I decide to make a pasta salad. The dinner hour came and went, my children ate, however, my husband was not yet home.

I was perturbed.

I called him on his mobile and began to chastise him. He, however, explained that he was caught up in an unplanned meeting and whenever he did have the opportunity to escape the meeting to call me, the line was busy.

In my heart, I knew that I should accept his explanation and let it go. But like a dog with a bone, I didn’t want to.

I was tired. I was angry. I felt taken advantage of.

And although I knew my feelings were an overreaction, I didn’t care. I stormed down the stairs and slammed shut the door to my office.

Turning on the radio, the Christian station featured a guest host who was talking on the topic of relationships. What he was saying spoke directly to me. It was as if God Himself talked to me through this radio voice.

But instead of getting up and returning to my husband to apologize, I got up and turned the radio off.

I knew the right thing to do, but chose not to do it. I knew that what I was doing was against God’s Word, but chose to do it anyway.

I purposely chose to be disobedient.

It’s no wonder that my prayers went unanswered and I felt a distance with God. He says that when we are disobedient, He withholds His blessings.

It seems so simple. When I walk in obedience to God’s Word and choose to do His will, He showers me with blessings.

That night, I went to my regular weekly Bible study and my spirit was checked again. God was patient with me.

When I returned home, I gave my husband a hug and asked his forgiveness.

If my people, who are called by my name, will humble themselves and pray and seek my face and turn from their wicked ways, then will I hear from heaven and will forgive their sin and will heal their land (2 Chronicles 7:14 NIV).

I pray that next time it won’t take me hours to do what I should have done right away.

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