Discussing ideas vs. Tongue Flapping of Rightness and Wrongness
Whenever politics or policy is up for discussion, I am beginning to question whether to engage in the discourse or not. The “discussions” — if that is what they can be called — go in the following order:
- How can the following group/politician think that x or y ideas/policies makes sense?
- Here are the reasons why x or y ideas/policies are right or wrong
- How does group/politician not understand this?
A great poverty of our times is the loss of discourse — where we are more focused on convincing the other of their wrongness, and our rightness; or, the weakness of their idea/position; or, the superiority of our position.
Disclaimer: I am not innocent of this either.
This type of discussion absolves us from two things: (1) Being authentic about our values/fears/concerns; and (2) Being bigger than our “lizard brain” (i.e. Fight or flight mind)
With this state of affairs, what do you do?
- Feel the frustration, but don’t become bitter
- Don’t try to change anyone. Don’t — it doesn’t work and even if you do they will resent you
- Try to observe/research the broader context, history and trends with as much possible objectivity
- Try to see how you feel, and what that means you value.
- Try to see what the view feels, and what they value.
Knowing that inherent views of rightness breads mistrust and disconnection, I am working on this.
Krishan Patel
New York, 2015