Is Facebook Taking the Face Out Socialization?
Jamie relationship felt short of what she hoped it would become to be. After six short months with Michael their relationship had come to an end.
She blames the end of her relationship due to Facebook. She said that Michael never wanted to change his relationship status to being in a relationship with her.
“He claimed that a real relationship didn’t need to be proven on Facebook, what mattered was what was happening in the moment then and there. I kept arguing that it if it wasn’t a big deal than he could take the three seconds to change the relationship status” Jamie said.
After months of arguing Jamie says she got more and more paranoid, thinking that Michael had something, or someone, to hide from her. She says that Michael would refuse to post pictures of them together or mention her in any sort of status that he would post. Jamie broke up with him after one final argument when she asked for one good reason as to why they could not put their relationship status on Facebook.
Many relationships deteriorate every year because of problems over Facebook. One article done by Huffington Post discussed many of the reasons relationships are being ruined. They discuss many of the situations that may lead to some sort of problem over Facebook, such as when your ex friend requests you, and when there is over sharing and under-sharing of the relationship on Facebook. They also source a study that was done in 2009 that suggested that Facebook contributed to bringing more jealousy to relationships.
This study done by Muise, Christofides, and Desmarais argues that this jealousy is caused by the newsfeed, where they are able to see more information about their partner than they may have access too, then leading to a heavier use of Facebook, and spiraling into further jealousy.
Other relationships rather than romantic are being affected because of Facebook. Kristen Smith remembers a time when she was in high school and had a shocking moment of revelation.
“I was spending more time looking at my friends through this stupid screen than actually going out and creating all of these amazing memories that they were posting about” Smith said.
During her high school years Smith estimated that around an hour and a half to two hours were spent on Facebook everyday. After day after day of either ignoring her friends when they requested to hang out, or spending all the time out with them checking in on Facebook, Smith noticed that her friends were quickly disappearing.
dna did a report on Facebook and the affects that it can have on a person psychologically. This article discussed one study done by the Israel Journal of Psychiatry and Related Sciences which concluded that Facebook can affect mental health and even lead to mental delusions. Those who are lonely are more prone to being bullied or having one of these Facebook induced psychotic episodes, according to the study.
This study titled “Facebook Can Make you Psychotic and Delusional!”, discussed the mental health problems that may become present with persistent Facebook usage. Some patients began to feel vulnerable due to sharing private information and others had full psychotic breaks, believing that the person on the other side of the screen was physically touching them. The conductors of this study from The Health Site say that those who sought out help were able to make a full recovery, and both the news article that sited this study and the study itself agree that moderation is the most important thing to remember when it comes to Facebook usage.
Not all relationships are affected by Facebook for the worst. Jennifer Sutton has studied abroad in Australlia not once, but twice, and says that it does have its benefits.
“It’s really nice to be able to keep up with the friends I had made across the world. If I didn’t have a Facebook the relationships that I had would have dissappeared pretty quickly. This way at least I can keep in touch and keep all the great memories that I had made close to me.”
Sutton is not the only one taking advantage of Facebook to keep in touch with those who are far, Pew Research Center, seven of ten users (under the age of 50) use social media mainly to keep in touch with friends who are far from them. Half of the users say keeping in touch with old friends is equally important.
Facebook is not taking face out of socialization, but it is creating a new digital face that is affecting face to face interaction.