Dropping your “me vs. them” mentality once and for all
It’s not about oppositional thinking. We have to work together in order to build relationships we can thrive within.
by: E.B. Johnson
If we’re looking to build relationships and friendships that last, we have to find better ways to connect and enjoy one another. The world we live in today encourages us to adopt a “me vs. them” way of thinking, or a highly individualized approach. We’re encouraged to put ourselves first, and see others as a threat to our personal sovereignty — rather than an important piece of it. This oppositional thinking, though, leads to corruption and conflict which only makes us more unhappy over time.
Rather than seeing the world in such negative terms, you have to reshape and restructure your perspective. In order to be happy, you don’t have to conquer or vanquish someone else. There’s enough space in this world for all of us, we just have to put ourselves in the right state of mind, and in the right environment, to bloom. Stop looking for battles, and start looking for better ways to connect across your differences and your insecurities. Then, you can build a life (and a future) that is filled with the love and companionship you seek.
