The reason we fall for abusers
Have you fallen in love with an abusive person? These might be the reasons behind your choice.
by: E.B. Johnson
It’s one thing to know the warning signs of abuse, but what of our tendency to fall for abusers? Time-and-time-again we find ourselves slipping into the same old patterns with the same manipulative, controlling people. What is it that brings us back to these toxic charmers and the waves of destruction they bring with them? Why do we find ourselves giving up and giving in — even when we know that they’re bad for us?
Sometimes, we simply don’t realize who an abuser truly is until it’s too late. In other instances, we refuse to accept the truth that’s staring us right in the face. It all comes down to how we view ourselves and how we view others. The past, too, plays a big part and — combined with a low sense of self-worth or unaddressed trauma — we can find ourselves trapped in patterns that destroy our livelihood and our love. If you want to escape your tendency to fall for toxic, abusive people then cultivate the understanding you need to rework your perspective.
Abuse is never an acceptable way to live.
Most abusive people don’t readily reveal their abusive tendencies until they’ve trapped…
