Love isn’t what you think it is
Love is patient, love is kind? Yeah, right.
by: E.B. Johnson
As the years pass, we form a lot of ideas around the concept of love. More often than not, we come to view love as the Hollywood ideal; a whirlwind of unrealistic hopes and standards clustered into a sea of high expectations.
We view love through the rose-tinted glasses of Hallmark cards and Ginger Rodgers films. We think we know what love is supposed to look like, but when it gets real? Well, that’s when we get disappointed.
Love isn’t patient or kind. It’s brutal, messy, confusing and — often times — short. It’s not always trusting or selfless. Sometimes, it just fails and there’s nothing we can do to change that.
Real love isn’t about shaping someone else or getting hurt or getting validation. True love is a journey and a conscious choice we have to make every single day.
What love isn’t.
The fluffiness of it all.
When we think of love, we think about it as this ethereal thing that just to happens to us — like a lightening strike or a hurricane. We act as though we have no control over our love and we let it come and go (and wreck our lives and our wellbeing) as it pleases.
