How The Outside World Pulls You Away From Your Authentic Self (Part 2 w/Jake Bekker)
Comparison is the Thief of Joy
Whatever you do in life, do not compare the chapter that you are in with somebody else’s chapter.
As Jake Bekker said it “comparison is the thief of joy”.
And yet, we all do it!
Comparing yourself to others is actually a natural human thing to do.
But we need to be careful not to let it get to us and not let it change who we really are.
The truth is that there is always going to be someone who seems better than you.
Not because they actually are better than you but because we were all created to be great.
So if all of us were created to be great, there’s not one person that will ever be “not great”.
Which means that we will always end up thinking “look at that person and how great they are” about one another.
As there is not one person who was not created to be great.
And that’s the reason why you cannot waste your time comparing yourself to others.
Considering the fact that your greatness will be different from others people’s greatness.
We all are on different journeys towards our own unique greatness.
In fact, we’ve all got our own book to live so there’s no point in comparing the chapter that you’re living right now with the chapter that someone else is living because those chapters don’t even come from the same book!
Sometimes it might feel like your book or even the chapter that you are in are going to be bad and that it’s going to be this way forever but every story has to start somewhere.
And things always start off bad before they can become good or even great.
In fact, Pastor Erwin Mcmanus said:
“People ask ‘how do I get better at something?’ — You know how you get better at something? By doing it!
The way you get better at something is doing it badly.
I’ll tell writers all the time, because people say ‘how do I become a writer?’ WRITE.
‘But how do I become a good writer?’ — Be willing to be a bad writer.
If you’re not willing to be a bad writer you’re never going to be a good writer.”
You have to be willing to be bad in order to be good.
You have to be willing to have a few bad chapters before your story becomes good.
In fact, your story can only be good with the bad bits in it.
If the whole story was just “This person lived a good life, the sun was shining all the time, nothing bad happened, everyone was happy all the time. The end.”
Would you even care to buy that book?
That doesn’t seem like a very interesting book to get.
Only the stories that have ups and downs and struggles are worth reading.
And only the stories with ups and downs and struggles give birth to the best heroes.
So if you’re struggling right now and you feel tempted to compare yourself to other people, just remember that those other people also struggled.
In fact, they might be struggling now but you have no idea because you’re just having a quick look through their chapter without actually knowing the whole story.
That’s why there is no point in comparing yourself and your life to somebody else’s.
Doing so will rob you not only of joy but it’ll also rob you of your own life.
Enjoy the life that you have.
Live it fully while you can.
And be the hero of your own story instead of trying to be like somebody else.
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