Real Talk about Shit Talking

We’ve all done it… but what does it mean?

Zara Macias
Latin Locura
2 min readJun 12, 2024

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Photo by Roberto Tumini on Unsplash

Long story short: You probably feel shitty about yourself if you are talking shit about someone else. You may have the knee-jerk reaction that THEY made you feel like shit.

No.

No one can make you feel a certain way unless you let them.

You have SO much more control over your emotions than you realize.

Visualize this table when you are unsure of what’s in your control. This is something I recently reminded myself of.

If you want to keep your sanity, visualize this Venn diagram…

To backtrack a bit. Emotions themselves are a beast to manage. However, repressing them or constantly trying to keep the peace will start a war inside you.

If you want to conquer this internal war, for one — identify it’s there. Second, describe richly what’s going on. By this, I mean

EXPAND YOUR EMOTIONAL VOCABULARY.

Studies show that being unable to describe your emotions spikes cortisol levels in your body — a primary stress hormone.

This article by Karla McLaren is extremely helpful in breaking down your emotions. She masterfully divides emotions into 6 groups.

  1. Anger
  2. Fear
  3. Happiness
  4. Sadness and Guilt
  5. Jealousy and Envy
  6. Depression

She then provides 30–50 nuances/words in each grouping.

Trust me, empowering yourself to self-assess and introspect will significantly reduce your instinct to talk shit.

Is it still fun to talk shit?

Well, of course.

Is it healthy?

Nah.

Talking shit is a short-term ego boost that ignores deep-rooted difficulties that, if left ignored, can damage your life in the long run.

Talk less. Reflect more. This is a reminder for me just as much as you.

XOXO,
Zara

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Zara Macias
Latin Locura

Zara holds a BA in Political Science/International Affairs. She’s passionate about destigmatizing mental health and empowering women, Latinos, & POC to lead.