Omnia Vincit Amor — Why Love Hurts
“Everyone says love hurts, but that is not true. Loneliness hurts. Rejection hurts. Losing someone hurts. Envy hurts. Everyone gets these things confused with love, but in reality, love is the only thing in this world that covers up all pain and makes someone feel wonderful again. Love is the only thing in this world that does not hurt.” — Ameer Abbas
In the year 1601 A.D, the great Italian artist named Caravaggio created an amazing symbolism of the epoch of all human emotions — love.
Under this mind blowing painting was placed a beautifully scripted line extracted from Virgil’s Eclogues.
Here’s what it says “Omnia vincit amor et nos cedamus amori”. This means that “Love conquers all; let us all yield to love!".
Omnia vincit amor is one of those few Latin adages that had continued to live on the tongues of men after the death of the language.
From the polished halls of great orators to the dusty sheds of babbling market woman, omnia vincit amor has become common but still useful.
Every single time that love and its power over all forms of human suffering, the quote of “omnia vincit amor” doesn’t fail to surface from time to time.
Some people have gone to the extent of tattooing it on their bodies.
This is to make sure everyone understands that it is LOVE that conquers all.
Over time, omnia vincit amor became an axiomatic cliché in the dating advice ecosphere.
And that’s not without a reason.
As simple as it sounds, omnia vincit amor is actually a litmus test for true love.
It also answers the question which most people who have been in a toxic relationship ask a lot — why love hurts?
This is especially true if you understand that the quote “omnia vincit amor” implies that love should be the thing that helps you to get rid of negativities that cause you not to enjoy life in full.
Here’s the cold hard truth:
Asking why love hurts is a big sign that you have been or you are currently in a very toxic relationship.
And you need to get out FAST!
We end up in toxic relationships because we don’t stand up for ourselves early on when red flags occur. We let them slid, because we fear losing a companion. How long do you let disrespect and neglect go?
At some point you have to develop healthy barrier for how you’re going to be treated; you’re responsible for your experience. Nobody else is.
Most people after being hurt by so many people who had claimed to be their heart’s other half will be tempted to relapse into loneliness — to become single.
According to the U.S. Census Bureau, the number of single-person households in the United States is increasing. In 2017, this figure was estimated to be as high as 65% of the entire US population.
That is huge!
A lot of people are missing out on the power of love just because a few Toms and Dicks messed them up.
But you don’t have to be like them.
Keep your heart open for true love — even though it seems it has broken into pieces. One day someone is going to hug you so tight that all of your broken pieces fit back together.
Love doesn’t hurt. The hurt you are feeling is because your heart is on the wrong hands. People should stop getting this twisted.
Never say “it’s okay” when you should be saying “goodbye”.
Failure to abide by this rule will have your heart ripped open by a million bullets and a thousand knife stabs of cruelty, ignorance, coldness, and overall emotional abuse.
I will end this essay with the wonderful words of Ameer Basha , “Your relationship should erase your tears, not your smile. True love doesn’t hurt, it heals. It brings happiness to your life. It empowers you to become the best version of yourself.”
Omnia vincit amor — Love conquers all things.
