Don’t try to change the world. Accept it as it is. Really! We will still be waiting for lightning to create fire!
Let’s first define this — when I say change the world, I mean change the circumstances around you. Not changing the Universe. Though, I would love to see someone change gravity.
People who “change the world” make big political, technological, or scientific changes and bring them into the lives of many people.
Who can accept the world as is? I would love to find that individual. This breathing thing is not working for me!
Have you ever felt that itch to fix everything around you? The moment someone mentions a problem, it’s like your brain kicks into overdrive, offering solutions left and right. We’ve all been there — a friend faces a challenge, a team member raises a concern, and suddenly, you’re armed with a pocketful of answers. It’s a natural instinct, rooted deep within us: the urge to solve problems.
Think about our ancestors. Imagine a time when there was no internet, no smartphones, and no AI to rely on. If they had embraced life as it was, without attempting to change their circumstances, we might still be huddled in the cold, hoping for lightning to kindle a fire for us. Yet, they didn’t settle for the status quo. They tinkered, invented, and adapted. They knew that change was essential for progress.
Here’s the thing: We’re not wired to accept the world as is. And that’s not necessarily a bad thing. The universe does provide for us, but not always in a way that’s immediately useful. We’ve had to take matters into our own hands. For instance, in the face of sweltering heat, we didn’t just resign ourselves to discomfort. We innovated, crafting fans from leaves and feathers. When the cold gnawed at us, we didn’t surrender; we fashioned warm clothes from animal skin.
So, why do we often hear the advice “do not change the world”?
The key lies in understanding whom we’re meant to change — ourselves, not others. When we adapt our environment to suit our needs, it’s empowering. But when we try to fix others’ issues, frustration creeps in. We may have all the answers, what seems like the perfect solutions, but sometimes, they just don’t get it. Can you imagine that?
Fine, the truth is, even if we identify the same problem, the context varies. What works for us might not fit their unique situation, needs, readiness, or goals. Our intentions may be noble, but pushing our solutions onto them creates more problems than it solves.
Consider our daily work experiences. We excel when tackling tasks within our control, relishing in the satisfaction of achievement. However, collaboration demands a different approach. It’s a dance of compromise, communication, and understanding. This is where the anxiety sets in — the realization that we can’t change others, only ourselves.
Of course, there are exceptions. In life-or-death situations or when someone lacks the capacity to decide, intervention is necessary. But outside these rare cases, we must learn to let go. It’s tough, no doubt, but releasing the urge to fix everyone’s problems can bring freedom.
Pause for a moment. Take a deep breath. Accept that we’re not the architects of everyone’s destiny. It’s not about relinquishing responsibility; it’s about recognizing boundaries. If you’re a manager, you might think replacing someone is a solution. Yet, the new person arrives with their unique needs and challenges, renewing the cycle.
Changing others isn’t a feasible goal. What we can do, though, is change ourselves — our perspective, our approach, and our expectations. Instead of pouring energy into pushing our solutions, let’s redirect it to refining our own understanding and adaptability.
Imagine a world where we focus on what we can control: our actions, reactions, and choices. Instead of forcing our ideas onto others, we offer support and guidance. When someone seeks our help, we become sounding boards, helping them navigate their thoughts and find their solutions.
This shift in mindset can transform our relationships, both personally and professionally. By acknowledging that we can’t change others, we foster a culture of respect and collaboration. It doesn’t mean avoiding disagreements or turning a blind eye to problems. Rather, it’s about approaching challenges with empathy, and understanding that each person’s journey is unique.
In conclusion, the mantra “do not change the world” isn’t about accepting the world as it is without improvement. It’s about recognizing that our primary focus should be on changing ourselves — adapting, growing, and evolving. Our innate desire to solve problems is a strength, but it needs to be channeled effectively. When we embrace this perspective, anxiety diminishes, relationships flourish, and we create a positive ripple effect in our surroundings.
So, the next time you feel that urge to fix everything around you, remember that change begins with you. Instead of changing others, focus on changing how you approach the world. It’s a small shift that can lead to remarkable transformations in your life and the lives of those around you.
Now let’s take that deep breath …… and let it out!
What we learned: We are meant to act. Let’s always be doers. Change ourselves, Improve for ourselves. Let everyone be where they want to be.
Till next time, Cheers,
Amit
