If you knew you could not fail what would you do?
Clearly, this is not simple. For many of us this is a challenging question to answer even though we know we will not fail per sure(in this scenario). This is so because we rarely give ourselves a permission to question ourselves and ask: What is it that we are seeking? What is it that we want? What it is that we are trying to become? What do we mean by happiness? Do we just seek our happiness through things, through relationships, through thoughts, or ideas? Isn’t it then the things, relationships, and ideas become more important than happiness? Probably most of us are seeking some kind of happiness, some kind of success, some kind of nobility, some kind of pleasure, or peace. Of course, it’s truly possible to live the life we dream if we know what it is that we want. Them the Life, our daily life, turns into a process of becoming something. For example, I am poor, so I act with an end in mind to become rich; or I want to make a difference in the world and hence I become an entrepreneur. There by, we turn our life into a constant struggle: I am this, and I want to become that; I have this and I need that etc. This never ending struggle is all for gaining some authority over something. It doesn’t matter whether we lose or win, our struggle continues unless we really find out what we really want in our life.
In order to find out what it is that we really want in our life, self-exploration is the first part of that process. If we step back for a minute and try to understand the compulsion behind our desire to dominate or to be dominated, having or not having something, becoming or not becoming some one, then we can find the beauty and joy in what we are seeking. In spite of all the technologies and wealth around all of us — whatever the share, size, and form of it — very few of us enjoy anything. We have very little joy in seeing the sunset, or beautiful mountain range or the full moon, or a beautiful person, or a lovely flower blossoms. We do not really enjoy anything. We have a kind of sensation, which we call it joy. But, our minds are preoccupied with beliefs, dogmas, assertions, and our own soliloquies. We can’t really feel the sensation of such beauties. We look at them and superficially amused or excited by them. As we grow older, though we want to enjoy more things, then the best has gone out of us. Then we want to enjoy other kinds of sensations — passions, power, and position. These are all the normal things of life. These need to be understood well and given their right place. If we condemn them as being worthless, as being sensational, stupid or unspiritual, we destroy the whole process of living.
The reason I am dwelling over happiness and getting into the roots of self-awareness is that it helps us to dig deeper into our conscious and unconscious worlds and allows us to think with a fresh perspective. And, if we allow ourselves to take on this type of questioning, we will find that our personal options for finding happiness, joy, and meaning for our lives are vast and varied. With all our world of choices and unlimited possibilities emerge from this thought process, we can start the journey of truly living our life.
Isn’t it the time for us to grab a chair and go to a beach to twoodle!! Whatever we discover to do in our twoodling or whatever we become in that process, we still need to deal with the People around us(it is the most difficult part of all), their sentiments, beliefs, dogmas, haves and have nots. When we come back next, let us talk aboutArt of Listening. Until then happy twoodling!
