It’s good to talk.
Who would you talk to about your decision making process when considering making a Leap?
Each week, we ask the community a key question — something which seems to raise its head regularly in conversation, or something which is common in everyone’s journey in leaping. The intention is that a problem shared is a problem halved (or at the very least, some level of anxiety around the problem will be reduced!), and we’ll write up the responses from the questions into a shareable article which anyone can discover — whether they’re a member of the community or not.
There’s no doubt that taking a leap in your career is fraught with anxiety — Will I find another job? How much do I need to make to survive? Will my skillset be attractive to others? What happens if I’m rejected? This early stage of the Leapers process is just full of questions — each completely personal to your own particular situation — and the risk is that, without tackling these questions head on, you’ll just spiral, and feel overwhelmed.
It’s good to talk — and particularly with considering a leap, talking to a broad range of friendly folk is absolutely critical.
“Every time I have taken a plunge and now when I’m setting up my own show I talk to everyone I can. Family friends colleagues and anyone new I run into — more input the better. I’m always pleasantly surprised how much advice people will share and how those conversations can spark new thoughts.”
— Julian Harcourt
Seeking external advice helps you get additional perspectives, hear things you might not have considered, and challenges you to think about the reality, rather than your own perception of reality — whether those are optimistic or pessimistic.
“I’ve found everyone I’ve approached has been really keen to share their experience. It’s been useful and motivating to see people who have made a success of it.”
— Caroline Doran
So, beyond ‘as many people as possible’, who can you talk to? Here are some of our community’s suggestions, so find a coffee shop near you and invite some of your new network of supporters…
++ Your Partner
If you have a significant other in life, discussing your thoughts with your partner is undoubtedly essential — especially if you have shared responsibilities such as bills or family. In fact, anyone affected by your decision is a stakeholder — take their views on board, and see how your decisions have an impact beyond you. This might be the hardest conversation to have — and see it as an ongoing conversation, not a single chat. Working this out together is only going to make your journey better supported.
++ Your friends
This group of people know you well, really well. In fact, they’re probably the group who you are already sharing your thoughts with. Bear in mind though, friends can often be supportive of your ideas, hopes and dreams — regardless of how practical they may be.
++ Your ex-bosses
If you’re still on good terms with previous colleagues or bosses from other jobs, this is a great resource to reach out to. They knew you professionally, not just personally — they are potentially less emotionally engaged in your future plans, and can see your skills and gaps with some clarity, and can give you a view on the realities of the workplace right now — what challenges are they seeing, what opportunities are available; and who knows — it could even create a new opportunity for you in the future.
++ Mentors and Coaches
Seeking professional support for career advancement is always a route you can take. Whilst it can be costly, see it as an investment in your future salary or happiness, sort of like reverse insurance, pay a little bit now for greater rewards later. The biggest benefit of having a more formal coaching or mentoring relationship is that you’ll be able to work forward on your journey together — and benefit from the wealth of experience from the coach.
++ Your Current Boss
This might seem like an odd conversation to have, but your current boss has a responsibility to develop you and your career forward. Not every leap is about leaving a company, or even a role. Conversations with your current organisation about how the leap can happen within your current role or business are often fruitful — and commonly, it seems to be those who ask are more likely to get, compared to those who simply don’t push a conversation about development. Even if you’re not comfortable talking about your next role, or are committed to moving on — a conversation with your manager can help you identify your strengths and weaknesses, in order to develop a plan for your own development.
++ Expert Patients
The phrase ‘expert patient’ is stolen from healthcare, where patients are connected with other patients who have already been through treatment. This gives the inbound patient the opportunity to talk with someone who isn’t a Doctor, but knows what the process is really like. They have no reason to lie or emotional tie to you — they just call it how it is. Find an expert patient for your career, someone who has been there before, someone who has already done it, and get the low-down, warts and all. There’s no shortage of expert patients on the Leapers community itself, just ask a question, and see if you can find someone with experience of what you’re going through — that’s the whole point of the project.
++ Potential Future Bosses
This is both shrewd and valuable, have a conversation with people you look up to, that you might want to work with in the future, that you think may be included in your journey — find out what they think, what they’re looking for, ask for advice and guidance and build a relationship with people who perhaps might be your manager in the future.
++ Complete Strangers
Whilst it can seem extremely odd having a conversation with someone you don’t know, talking to someone completely outside of your circle, industry and network can be hugely valuable. Not only will there be observations which have parallels to your journey, there will also be things you discover which you’d not ever considered, helping to better inform your thinking process. Personally, its been these conversations which have been the most fruitful for me, shaping and reforming my view on what I could be doing next. The dreaded ‘Filter Bubble’ doesn’t just apply to news and current affairs, but also our own biases on how we see the future, and breaking out of that bubble, connecting with people who are fresh and have new perspectives can help your process be so much richer.
Finally, and perhaps most importantly, you need to have some serious conversations with yourself. Capture the thoughts, observations, questions, concerns which flow through your head and keep track of them — use a notebook, a word file, emails to yourself — whatever technique works, but don’t lose the questions and concerns you find bubbling up. Use them to guide your conversations with others, and aim to try and answer those which you feel are holding you back the most.
It is also worth noting that these conversations never need to stop — leaping isn’t a process which really ever ends, and continuing to have conversations with your stakeholders, key networks and contacts, people who you trust and who support you, will only benefit your journey in the long-run, and help you to constantly leap forward — after all, that’s what leaping is all about, taking active control over the future of your work, rather than simply waiting for something to happen.
If you’re interested in being connected with others who are on a similar journey, why not join Leapers — a community for people who are taking active control of the future of their work.
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