Should You Accept the Unacceptable?

Or is it unacceptable?

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When you think of acceptance, what comes to mind?

Do you think that accepting what is means that nothing changes? Or do you think that accepting what is right now means everything can change?

Acceptance might feel like a gift for some people, and for others, it might look like they have to put up with something they don’t want; they have to accept the unacceptable.

But do they?

Accepting the unacceptable

This subject came up recently in a conversation with a client who questioned accepting something that is wrong. Now, no one would advocate that you should accept the unacceptable. If you think that someone’s behaviour towards you, or anyone else, is unacceptable, I am not asking you to accept this blindly.

But, let’s think about the idea of what you consider unacceptable? For me, any form of violence is unacceptable; mental manipulation is unacceptable. There are other things that I draw the line at, but we don’t need to discuss them here; let’s keep this clean.

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