Trama in Life

Sitting back and thinking about all the things I have had to endure has really taken my mind to a new and strange place. The amount of trauma I have had might not even compare to others but we all respond differently.

The transition was something that to this day has been the greatest part of my life second only to my kids. Being myself and feeling happy about who I am inside my body has been a huge help mentally and physically.

Getting here though has led to some natural and unmistakable things that have truly hit hard on life. The first thing was losing my friends I knew for so many years growing up. Sure I have made new friends now, but that is something that hurts. Honestly I am thankful those old friends I lost are out of my life, because they did not support me as an intersex woman.

The other thing that hurt was losing family because they didn’t agree with me as who I am now. Like a father who doesn’t talk to me, and if they do they still can’t get my pronouns or gender or even my fucking name right after 6 years. Truly a disappointing feeling.

My first wife left me after 15 years, which hurt really hard, but mostly recovered since then. It has truly been a challenge dealing with the fact that someone would walk out on me and the kids over transition. But here I am.