How Single Women Are Finding Their Way to Motherhood with a Different Kind of Partner

No more settling with unhappy relationships just to have a co-parent

Y.L. Wolfe
Liberty
Published in
9 min readSep 22, 2024

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I’m just going to come right out and say it: Having ovaries is a major liability. You might think I’m talking about getting pregnant in a country rolling out dangerous abortion bans. Or perhaps you think I’m referring to sexism, in general.

All of that is accurate, of course, but what I’m referring to is a little more imperceptible than that. The liability I’m talking about is the Baby Daddy Quest. Every woman who wants to have a baby — or even thinks she does — is familiar with this quest. That’s right, not just heterosexual women. You can’t make a baby without a man’s little swimmers, after all.

We learn early on that we only have so much time. And even if biology wasn’t a factor, social pressure kicks in the moment you start menstruating. I remember feeling like I was supposed to have the names of my children already picked out by the time I was 11.

But it’s not until you start dating as an adult that things get problematic. You figure out very quickly that men are under the delusion that they will be at peak fertility their entire lives, and so why burden their youth with responsibilities that could wait…

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Y.L. Wolfe
Liberty

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