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I’m Terrible at Sex

Is this an inherent flaw, or did I learn it from a culture that doesn’t value my sexuality?

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At 45, I’ve discovered something that is hard for me to swallow: I’m terrible at sex.

It’s not a performance thing. (At least, I haven’t gotten any complaints in that department.) It’s something bigger. Something I struggle to put into words.




I will write until I’m free.

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