Yes, My Boobs Are Saggy — So What?
Why is it socially acceptable to comment on a stranger’s breasts?
“Girl, you need to get yourself a better bra.”
This is a refrain I hear often on Instagram, TikTok, and YouTube — anywhere you can see my body.
After nearly forty years of carrying around these breasts, it still staggers me how much feedback they manage to elicit from perfect strangers.
Since I was 12, random men have often commented on how beautiful and sensual they are, how great it is that I let my breasts communicate how much I love sex (a leap in logic that only works for men who are trying to rationalize away their predatory behavior).
I’m sorry to say there’s been no less commentary from women — but those comments are born from a much more complex space. Older women in my life, for instance, often chastised me for wearing a shirt that had a neckline lower than my collarbone or one that wasn’t hugely baggy. They understood that a young woman with a large chest was more likely to be victimized by men, and also understood that there was no option to hold men accountable for their predatory behavior — so they had to make it my responsibility.
Meanwhile, the women who were my contemporaries had an entirely different set of commentary — accusatory…
