Casual Sex? Is it fulfilling?
As a wife, mother and grandmother, ancient to you young things I know, I do feel sorry for youngsters today, especially young women. I was asked by a young friend my view on casual relationships today which is how I came to write these few paragraphs.
Life’s now perceived goals for happiness coupled with dubiously accepted wisdom of how relationships work, seem for the most part to bring unhappiness. Drowning sorrow in alcohol or drugs or ‘shopping’ I feel isn’t the answer.
The sexual act is something we share with animals and if you watch most of the animal world around us (dogs as an example) it is the male of the species that normally does the chasing with the goal of a sexual victory. It’s normal, it’s necessary and it’s procreation.
I feel that women on the other hand (however much it is trumpeted differently)approach the sexual act with different ideas. Love and nurture being far higher on their list of needs. If you read the words of those women who were at the forefront of female sexual freedom in the 1960's when the contraceptive pill arrived, you will find that for the most part they now say that their casual sexual encounters did not turn out to be the panacea for happiness that they pretended it to be at the time. In the 21st century the situation hasn’t changed for some young women.s
Today’s young men have a much easier passage than young women — for the most part their physical needs are being fulfilled, all perfectly normal. Of course this does not apply to all men in the way that the ideas expressed above applies to all women.
Sometimes we need to step back, take stock and decide whether this is what we really want from life and if it isn’t then change it. If casual sex is something that you don’t enjoy why do it?
My advice would be to take your life into your own hands, decide what you want from it and start down the road to your own happiness, and remember life can be far happier, far more fulfilled as a ‘single’ just look around you and I’m sure you’ll know quite a few unhappy couples.
