Love is Change.

How do you get passed the big fight? 
with tears, the hurtful words exchanged, 
when the yelling simmer’s down to silent breaths over the phone 
where your laying and blankly staring at the ceiling and you hear:

“You know I love you right?
Tell me we will be okay, tell me it’ll be fine 
nothing will change, we will still be us.”

But that was the problem we needed to change each other.

It’s the moment you believe that love is not about losing or winning, or egos.

You're a team, you are best friends.

Love is truly just a few moments in time, followed by an eternity of situations to grow from,

love on the contrary to what people believe is change.

It’s the moment in the relationship that had become not just a destination but a lifelong quest to keep watering each other, and growing for one another.

Relationships aren’t movies, 
falling in love is not enough, 
staying in love will always be work,
realizing you can’t survive just on love.

He said he doesn’t change….

Who he was at 17 is who he is at 23, and who he’ll be at 30.

I couldn’t understand that logic, to me life is about change.

To adapt, to evolve, to learn, to love someone other than yourself.

But to fall in love we have to take risk of changing yourself for this person — you are giving them power to change you — your soul knows that — there is an egotism between two,

yes, we deserve that honeymoon period where it’s rainbows and cute and perfection all the time,

but love has to expand, has to grow, has to change you.

If you don’t change each other — how can you really love someone?

Every love you have is an opportunity, 
the gift is in the interaction and the connection with this person, 
whether it lasts forever or not.

I was a caterpillar when I met him in a cocoon of his world — and now that I became a butterfly he’s upset because his high school dreams never went too far.