Today We Have A Guest Editing The Letter, There Is An Interview With Ellena De Lalla, and other news
I haven’t seen my kids in three months now and it looks like I won’t see them for another six weeks.
(This is Joel’s friend, Wendy, by the way. 🙋🏻♀️ He asked me to write a guest letter. As you’ve already discovered, I don’t really do polite, I do real.🤷🏻♀️ But hello, it’s nice to cross paths with you this way 👋🏼…)
My kids are 7 and 10 and they are safe, but it’s a complicated situation.
To make a very, very long story absurdly short and (perhaps) over-simplified: Losing my everyday life with them is the price I have paid for being true to myself.
I live in California.
Ever since I came out as polyamorous and said I wanted to date other people…
Their dad (my not-quite-ex husband) has been living across the country in Florida with my mom for the past four years…
(Yes, you read that right, I said he’s living with MY mom…and, no, it’s not romantic, in case you were wondering…)
We had a remarkably successful business together.
And I’ve lost my stake in that as well…
But this isn’t a sob story.
This is a story about the beauty and the heartbreak that IS living a soul-aligned life.
Rarely can we see around the bend in time and know what will unfold in the future.
The best we can do is make the decision TODAY that we are least likely to regret in the future.
The decision that we can best be in integrity with — whatever may come to pass.
And that decision, for me, will always be the one that is in alignment with my soul’s calling. The decision that feels most alive and aligned. The one that calms me down or wakes me up, but never the one that numbs or deadens me.
It turns out, I love people across the gender spectrum.
It turns out, my capacity to foster relationships where we love deeply and share intimately is remarkable.
It turns out, there is only so much “trying to make it work” in Florida I can do before the cultural differences and social isolation start to ever-so-slowly suffocate me.
The divorce isn’t finalized yet. (We haven’t been able to reach an agreement.)
My friends tell me I am naive for hoping that he might be open to making an agreement that actually considers my needs.
Maybe I am. But can 16 years deeply in love really go POOF like that?
Evidently so.
But I am being true to myself. Every day. In every relationship.
And in my business, I inspire other people to be themselves, too. At home. At work. With their clients. With their kids. Everywhere.
At the core, I believe it’s what we all really want.
To be seen and known, to be accepted (and even celebrated) for being who we truly are…
What do you think?
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Interview with Elena de Lalla
Hi, I’m Elena. I was born and raised in Italy. In my 20s I moved to the USA to work as a flight attendant for a major American carrier. I quit after 15 years when I started hearing the sound of the call bells in my sleep.
Why I Stopped Microdosing for PMDD
Almost two years ago, I went on a 30-day microdosing experiment. But now I have stopped microdosing for PMDD and there is a reason but it’s not what you think. A hormonal mood disorder called PMDD had me bedridden with depression monthly and made my eating disorder recovery impossible.
The Antidote to Toxic Positivity Psychology
There’s a pandemic of relentless positivity going around, with social media awash with happiness quotes meant to inspire and uplift. After all happiness, calm, joy, peace, gratitude and contentment are all preferable conditions that we aspire to be living in more often than not. They are higher vibrational states, and who doesn’t want those?
Quote
“There isn’t going to be a turning point…There isn’t going to be any next-month-it’ll-be-better, next fucking year, next fucking life. You don’t have any time to wait for. You just got to look around you and say: So this is it. This is really all there is to it… Everybody just needing such little things and they can’t get them. Everybody needing just a little…confidence from somebody else… Everybody, you know, like reaching out tentatively but drawing back…it seems like such a shame. It’s so close to being, like, really right and good and open”
— Janis Joplin
Short Jokes
What do you get when you cross-breed a shark and a cow? I have no idea but I wouldn’t try milking it.
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