Everything that’s wrong with your behaviour and why (Part 1)

In the beginning, you were born. And like all infants, you were completely vulnerable and dependent with a new developing brain and no understanding of the world. In a perfect world, your parents would be perfect, They would be dedicated full time to taking care of your physical and psychological needs, Always making the right decisions, setting the healthiest boundaries, and protecting you from all harm, while preparing you to eventually take care of your needs

But in the real world, no one is perfect. Neither your parents, nor the other people who play a role in your upbringing. Therefore, along the way, some of your developmental needs don’t get met. And The problem is, when one of your needs doesn’t get met, however big or small, it can leave a wound. These wounds are known as childhood trauma. each instance or pattern of trauma can create specific core personal issues and relationship challenges, And if these are left untreated, are likely to pass your wounds on to the next generation. Since this trauma occurs early in life, It can affect social, emotional, behavioural, cognitive, and moral development. It’s not always overt or intentional. Most commonly, people think of trauma is coming from hateful perpetrators are knowingly and willfully abusive.

But even parents who think of themselves as loving or well meaning, make mistakes, cross boundaries, or simply do their best with the limited internal resources they have. And this covert, often unrecognised abuse can, through its constant repetition, Leave wounds just as deep as those created by a single malicious app. It can be an emotional scar. In your earliest years, You’re the centre of the universe, Everything revolves around you. So wounds can come from caregivers who are either out of control, or completely detached from their emotions around you. When mom is always full of anxiety, as she’s breastfeeding, or dad comes home in a rage every time he has a rough day at work. Or step dad is depressed by his money problems during the rare moments he spends with you. you soak up these emotions like a sponge, Often you will easily taking the blame or responsibility for them. Even if a parent falls ill and passes away. It can seem like abandonment or something you made happen. If You’re too young to understand death. It can be physical. Most people understand that it’s not okay to physically harm or even spank a child. Here’s an example. It’s not as obvious. Any invasive medical procedure.