It’s not that I don’t care about your opinion; it’s that I *can’t*
One of my favorite quotes goes something like this: “Opinions are like assholes…everybody’s got one”. I like it because it’s true.
And because it contains an obscenity. I like fucking obscenities.
It’s true because, well, opinions are easy to have. And if you’re like most people, you generally aren’t afraid to tell people about those opinions.
As a content creator using a couple different mediums (mainly text and video), I get to be the recipient of a hell of a lot of opinions.
Things that I should be doing, but aren’t. Things that I should have done differently, but didn’t. Things that I should probably do instead, but don’t.
Trust me — when you put yourself out there like I do, you bear the brunt of a lot of different people’s viewpoints, perspectives and, yes, biases. It happens with all of us, not just me.
Here’s the truth, though:
I would drive myself insane if I listened to all you people
My opinion may not jive with yours. I may not have the same level of expertise diagnosing automotive problems as you. I might suck at drawing pictures or choosing the best type of bread to buy. Or fix a leaky faucet as well as you can. In other words, you have skills that I just don’t have. Great.
Then again, you may not be able to sit down and write a 2,500 word article in an hour like I can, either. Or write your own web applications.
We all can’t be like one another. We can’t all be experts in everything. And likewise, I can’t possibly listen to and adjust my perspective in life because someone else might have a different one.
Why? Simple: If I tried to do that, I’d be changing my opinions and perspectives all the time. I’d never be content. My life would be consumed by worry and overrun with thoughts of inadequacy because someone out there certainly has an opinion that’s different than mine.
And once that person finds out that my viewpoint is different, what will they think of me? Maybe that I’m an idiot? Inexperienced? A sheltered and privileged white boy?
I care about what you think…but not really
Make no mistake about it: I have changed my opinion before based on my interactions with others. It happens. In fact, it’s happened a lot.
But, I also don’t (and can’t) live my life always wondering whether or not someone’s going to like what I write or say, film or photograph. I just don’t care. I can’t care. I can’t.
I just can’t. But, it’s nothing personal…
I would drive myself certifiably insane if I cared about what everybody thought. And, I don’t want to be insane. I just want to do my best. Every time. And, learn a bit along the way.
If you’re smarter than I am, then great. I’m proud of you! If you’re dumber than I am, that’s fine too. If you think I do everything wrong, that’s cool.
We believe whatever we want to believe.
And, have fun with that. I sure do.