Losing yourself in a guy

It’s amusing, how easy it is to lose yourself and how difficult it is to find yourself again !!

I believe more than a boyfriend, every girl needs a best friend or soul sister. But this article isn’t about female friendships and their powers.

This is about a girl falling so hopelessly in love with a guy that everything else ceases to exist for her. It’s more or less like imprinting in ‘twilight’ world. I have seen so many girls suddenly changing their entire demeanor after they get into relationship. And if you think they are faking it, they’re absolutely not. It’s like the center of their world suddenly changes and their entire life becomes all about pleasing that one person.

If you’re thinking, how is this even possible, then the magic word is ‘Love’. But the rest of us, who aren’t becoming so, don’t we love our partners enough?
I know a girl who broke her 7 year long relationship just because she felt she isn’t getting anything out of it. It might sound selfish but it’s not. Taking granted itself is bad enough, then think about a relationship where all you do is trying to make the other person happy, being happy in their bliss where the other person puts zero efforts. Well they don’t really need to since all they have to do is be happy and the circle completes.

You know what follows is a series of frustration, disappointment and regret.
Frustration on losing yourself, your friends, your hobbies, things that please you. Disappointment on feeling even that’s not enough at times and the lack of appreciation that you think you deserve.
And regret when you look back into the past years and see nothing done except a person who may or may not stay forever with you.

So please wake up and change your ways. Don’t be just his girlfriend or ex. Be a person which he admires. Have your own friend circle, a crazy social life, your own hobbies, your own dreams and goals, your own moments, your own likes and dislikes.
And at the end, proud to have had an amazing life with no regrets. As to relationships, give your hundred percent efforts but don’t sacrifice yourself in the process. What’s meant to be will happen anyway…