How to Deal with Selfish People
As long as we all have to live on this planet together, we “WILL” need to deal with selfish and manipulative people. Being a little selfish is normal but some take it too far and only think of themselves at the exclusion of others. Self-centered people are people who put their needs and wants ahead of the needs and wants of others.
How can you recognize a selfish friend or partner, and how do you stop them from affecting your life? Find out how to deal with selfish people here.
1. Understand that selfishness is not that bad. Being selfish starts from having a well developed interest in your own wellbeing. Sure, selfish people go over the board with this and often ignore the wellbeing of others, but in itself, looking after your own needs is actually a mature thing.
2. Understand what the selfish person wants. The only way you can get something from a self-centered person is if you give back something of value to them. In order to do this, you need to understand the specific needs that person has. So, take some time to get to know them, what they value and what they desire.
3. Show them what they win. Self-centered people will always ask themselves: “What’s in it for me?” In order to collaborate with them, it’s essential that you show them what they gain from it. It’s not about your benefits when dealing with such people, it’s only about theirs. Keep this in mind when trying to persuade them.
4. Keep your promises. If you promise a selfish person a certain benefit for doing something and you don’t keep your word, you’ll quickly lose their trust. And once you lose the trust of self-centered people, it’s very hard to win it back. Don’t just promise them benefits from doing something, make sure you keep your word about them.
The good news is that self-centered people often have a lot of value to offer. Know how to deal with selfish people and how to push the right buttons, and you can get a lot of value from working or interacting with them.
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Originally published at newrichstrategies.com on November 9, 2012.
