A Lesson About Parenting
Your Children Need You Dad
“Daddy, I need you.”
This one sentence from my daughter always draws my full, undivided attention. She doesn’t have to yell it at me, or say it over and over again. She just has to stand beside me and say it, “Daddy, I need you.”
My focus turns toward her. And I find out how she needs me. Sometimes it is merely for a hug. Or she is scared. Yet, other times it is because she wants to be near me. She needs to know I care for her and love her.
I Am Challenged By These Four Words Every Day
Being a parent to any child, there is a lot of intentionality required. We have to be thinking about schedules, bed times, morning times, meals, play, friends, lessons and so much more. There are about a hundred different things we need to be aware of, otherwise, the fires of a cranky child will spill over and attempt to consume us.
And thats not to say we need to be making them happy. Our job is to help prepare them for the world. To launch them out like arrows.
When I am challenged by those words, I draw on a few quotes to encourage me. I hope they will help and encourage you too.
Deposits into Our Children
“Each day of our lives we make deposits in the memory banks of our children.” — Charles R. Swindoll
Even though we may not remember our childhood, there are always a few memories that come back to us. It helps us remember where we come from. For most of us they are good memories. However, for some people, they experience terrible memories about their childhood.
When I think about depositing memories for my little girls; I want them to remember dancing in the living room with dad. And getting special treats with dad on our daddy-daughter dates. I want them to remember fun and happiness.
And now, as we are learning a new home and city, I want them to remember going on adventures with me. Learning new lessons living on our little farm. These are the rich deposits I can be providing my girls.
What are memories your are depositing with your children?
“I cannot think of any need in childhood as strong as the need for a father’s protection.” — Sigmund Freud
We don’t have to be over protective, helicopter fathers who micro-manage our kids into submission. We do need to be there for them. They want to know that we are watching over them.
The other day my oldest daughter and I were at the park. A little girl took her dolly. She looked to me with tears filling up in her eyes. I immediately asked the little girl for the doll back. She handed it over sheepishly to my daughter I could see something happen. My girl filled up with confidence.
I didn’t really do a whole lot. Yet, the fact that I acted in my daughter’s interest. And protected her from having to face this older girl welled up something inside of my sweet girl that was visible to see.
Fathers, How are you protecting your kids?
Known and Be Known
“It is a wise father that knows his own child.” — William Shakespeare
For us to know our children we need to be there and in their world. It can be difficult to be there for our kids. We have so many things pulling us away. However, I will always say “no” to something that keeps me from my girls. The only way we will know our children is by being there.
I realized this once on a Saturday when I was home alone with the girls. I was trying to figure out when my youngest goes down for a nap. Her nap schedule had apparently changed and I had no idea. I’m at work during the day. I hadn’t even realized this one little change makes my one year old an angel or a creature-baby that will claw my beard off.
This is a silly example, however, I do believe it is so important for us to know the ins and outs of our children so they will want to share their lives with us completely. Especially as they get older and need us to be available.
How well do you know your children?
Respond and Share
I want to encourage you to go out and find some quotes that you identify with or to share this post with a dad you know. There are great lessons in the world, but none are more important than those of being a father.
If you have a quote which encourages you to be a better parent and connect with your kids, share it in the responses below.
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