How to Invent a Life Away from Home
On becoming the best you
Most of the time, we leave home with the expectation of freedom. Many of us may be looking forward to the parties or finding brand new friends, but we forget that there’s a time when we have to redefine ourselves outside of our social life. College is a time to do this.
While classes may be the foundation of what you’re doing away from home, you may find that your social life takes great precedence alongside it. Your friends are people that may be similar to those you had in high school and your classes will be something that you’re discovering. But, what about work and hobbies?
I remember when I was a freshman I kept finding charts that would break down expectation and reality of what time management is like in schools. Typically, you expect to study one hour per class but what you find is that you only do that homework and then forget about it until the next time you face your professor.
Those charts weren’t made without a reason and many of them go viral because they’re honest. The honesty in them is that college students agree that while you may expect to do things the “right” way, which is rooted in in-home training, you find that your freedom allows you to be sidetracked.
So, how do you get out of the line of thinking that tells you-you're a failure when you deviate from the original plan?
First, realize that work is what you make it. College isn’t about “finding” the career, rather begin to build it. When I was a freshman I had no clue that by the time I became a senior I would have my own publication, a large following of readers online, and able to generate income from my craft.
In class, I was studying the art of writing and all of its intricacies, but if you would have told me then that I would be who I am now I would have laughed at you. I built my job from my hobby.
I love to read. I can binge read an entire novel in a day. This means that building a career off of editing isn’t such a bad idea. In fact, there are paid positions throughout the nation that will allow you to go into editing, interning for a journal, or even working in literacy.
Building your career in college is key to having an amazing balance. When you establish that then you begin to choose classes with a purpose, not “just because.”
Your time will also begin to evolve. The expectation of “just doing homework” will go out of the window because you will be more attracted to what your professors are assigning. Your time will begin to figure itself out which means that there will be an ability to make As easily than what you did previously.
Also, your friends will evolve.
Through your work and hobbies, you will begin to attract people that are similar to you. Reading and writing circles became big for me. In them, I met a ton of friends who were interested in the same topics and politics that I was.
My advice, use college as a time to create yourself. Who you were in high school or back home doesn’t matter. On a university campus, there’s so much to do and things to explore. If you don’t try out a new club at least volunteer in order to learn about what you enjoy.