If You Feel Like The Left Out Friend, Read This
Get yourself out of the “fifth-wheel” zone
I was delighted to count myself in college among a cool 5-friends group, only it was short-lived. In no time, I’d become the one who the sidewalk wouldn’t fit, the friend behind the scenes, and the camerawoman for their Instagramable #frienship_goals photos.
Growing up, it’s easy to fall into the regimen of a society that only acknowledges tribes and fails to see individuals. You simply want to fit in, share that sense of group identity.
At your school, in your college, or workplace, there’s always the group known for throwing the best parties, the nerdy mathletes, the art-crazed crew, the teacher pets, or bosses’ suck-ups, and the average group — I belong to the latter.
The ‘average’ circle is friendly, diverse, knows people here and there from every other group, is against the stereotyping of our community, and invites whoever to hang out.
My friends were so inclusive and empathetic, yet I always felt like a burden. How come? It didn’t make sense to believe I’m left out by a friend group that I basically co-founded. I was never alone but totally lonely.
If you’re in the same boat, let me preface by saying the truth is going to hurt you.
