Stop Trying To Be Famous

You are destroying yourself from the inside

James Nguyen
Sep 7 · 4 min read

In the modern days when social media reigns supreme, fame can bring all kind of opportunities and fortune. Fame becomes both the foundation and the metrics for success.

People crave attention like never before — because it is convenient. An internet celebrity could get paid up to 3 or even 4 figures for a single blog post, or status, or an Instagram photo with caption tweaked to strictly market payer’s product.

Instagram models will millions of followers could land a sit in upcoming movies only to show up to portray the sexualized image of women. Internet influencer is the title a lot of people want to achieve and will sacrifice anything for it, even dignity and own life, as long as it pays out.

Unless you are one of the 0.001% of the human population who was born at the finish mark, chasing fame will only run your life to ruin, and I will tell you why deliberately doing so is such a horrible decision.

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Attention addiction

If fame chasing is a game, then it will be a gambling game. It is addictive, it almost always results in losses. Sometimes, you would win, and the prize of this winning is attention. You will feel happy, loved, desired for a moment to give you a false sense of hope, to keep you playing.

But the more you play, the more obsessed you are with the game, the bigger the losses accumulate that will eventually run everything you have into the ground.

Being addicted to attention makes you lose your confidence. You constantly seek acceptance and praises from other people that when you don’t, you feel that your life has no meaning, and you are a total failure. You become miserable, and you would do anything to feel that rush of attention again.

Sacrifice everything for fame

Junkies would do anything to get their hands on drugs. Attention addicts would do anything to get that follower number or likes going up.

Whether it is to do the most dangerous stunts, or start stupid internet challenges that would spread danger to other attention junkies, or breaking the law, vandalizing both public and private properties — as long as it has the potential to be trending or become “internet sensation”.

Is this worth it? To sacrifice your dignity, your pride, your health for something that will have an eternal effect on your future? To trade your life for validations from the people you don’t even know?

All the time wasted on social media

Sooner or later, you will realize that you would spend half of your day pressing away from the Like button on your social media accounts, being on edge for every notification for likes and comments from your followers.

You lose all focus in your daily job because all you can think of is to open that small phone screen and count the number of interactions and new followers that your account has received between now and the past 30 seconds when you did the exact same thing. Over and over and over again.

Momentary fame is not the same as reputation

You can become famous as an internet sensation after night because something you did became viral, and it surfs on waves of shares on social media. Everybody heard of what you did. But that is all to it. The world is big and eventful, and by the next morning, you have already gone back to being a nobody.

Famous writer and movie director came a long way to create a reputation for themselves. They spent decades practicing, improving their skills, to create works that will be known and remembered forever. Their fame is backed by their successful history and that does not come on a whim.

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Fame is the result of good work, not an achievable status. Just focus on doing what you do best, and try to share your work with others. This group of people will be your genuine fans, who support you on your path to success and care about your values and talents.

These will be your future connections to more positive opportunities, which steps by steps, will build you a reputation that is followed by exposure. So stop trying so deliberately to become famous. It is meaningless to be known to achieve nothing of greatness!

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