We all have goals that we want to achieve, and we all are taking steps to get there. Sometimes having plenty of goals, having checklists of things to do. Daily routines with time neatly blotted out.
Sometimes, we do it even when we do not want to do it. We are asked to push through, and I definitely agree that sometimes you need a little push to get yourself into the work. However, it may not help but worsens the feeling. It becomes a chore, it isn’t something that you’re enjoying, you’re finding it more of a task that I needed to fulfill.
Leaving it be only leads to the chance that you’ll crash and burn, and then you’ll not want to do it anymore. It has happened to me before, when I was doing it because I was afraid of stopping. I was unable to think about the alternatives until something forced me to.
In a way, it told me that I needed to let myself be a little more fluid.
1. Set aside time for blank space
This was the cradle of my creativity, where I could use it for brainstorming or research if I wanted. I could do something for the fun of it, I could do as I wanted. It is up to me, and most of the time, just what I felt like I needed to do.
It doesn’t mean that all your time is free, but it is the fact that you have some time to be able to do as you want. And it’s important, it keeps you from thinking that anything you do needs to be working towards something. It is by far, something that took me a long while to shake off.
It was perhaps eagerness, it was probably the thinking that with haste, or thinking I can finish it. There is a time for that, but sometimes you got to be willing to step out.
2. Make your goals less rigid
But I found that it was better to keep my goals flexible, I work on it every day, and think about how I can execute the next step. But I don’t really set a definite deadline, and work on it as much as I can at any given moment. It has high and lows, I can write a great deal sometimes, I just can’t.
It fit better when my schoolwork got busy, which allowed me to adjust my deadlines and output accordingly. It was less about working towards that end, but using that end to get me doing the work.
Without feeling any sense of urgency — that gets me to consider ideas that I totally regret pursuing. Or I seek them even when I’m not ready to commit to it. And I ended up realizing that it was either not what I wanted nor envisioned. And a lot of it gets wasted, and then I spend a lot of time realigning myself.
However, if I had chosen a slower schedule, I’ll be able to see that coming beforehand. And I’ll spend more effort just adding the detail and making up my mind on what I needed to do.
That has been the key to also my sudden lack of motivation because I never let myself be able to figure out whether personally, this mattered. It meant sometimes removing deadlines entirely, it becomes like a negotiable deadline. I’ll be happy to see it end, but I’ll not try and push myself to reach that end if it is proving more tricky.
3. Spend time reflecting
It’s okay to set aside some new time where you can do as you wish, it’s okay to make you think about your past actions and whether this is your choices right now and then be able to mull and regret.
I never did it, even as my own perspectives and feelings change. And I was somewhat aware that it was changing, but I went on without it. Letting my doubts go deep, and then not really allowing myself to change or be willing to try out new methods, ideas. Because I didn’t give myself the ability to slow down and make my goals less rigid.
When I did, it was better for me. That reflection allowed me to realize that I could accommodate, I could change. And that creativity is a process that needs both a degree of freedom and routine. We need to practice to keep our skills, but at the same time, it can’t be forced too much. It needs to be fluid sometimes, and other times, there can be a lot of consistent work.